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Who has pain in defloration?
Last reviewed: 17.10.2021
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From Latin, "deflowering" is translated as the removal of a flower or virginity. As you can see, in antiquity virginity was compared with a flower. Now her attitude is less than treacherous. But there is less knowledge about how to behave properly at the first intimate, that, punching the hymen, not to make a girl suffer from hellish pain. The hymen is a very whimsical part of the girl's body. It can be so strong that it remains intact even after intercourse. It's just stretching, that's all. Who cares about pain during defloration, and who can very easily avoid it?
Why do we need a hymen?
What is a hymen? It is a small thin fold in the vagina, which consists of the mucous membrane. The hymen before its rupture is designed to close the entrance to the vagina. It is located at a distance of 2-3 cm from the labia, called small (they are internal, there are also large labia - external).
The thickness and elasticity of the hymen depends on the characteristics of the girl's body. The older the woman, the less elastic and stretch her hymen. For example: if a woman remains a virgin under 30, her hymen loses elasticity by 70-80%. This is one of the theories to which most physiologists are inclined. But you can have different points of view on this question, and if you want to remain a virgin for a long time, this desire also has a right to life.
There are situations when the hymen is anatomically primed. Then it prevents the menstrual flow. In this case, the hymen should be surgically removed, since the absence of menstruation interferes with many processes in the body, in particular, increases the risk of diseases of the reproductive system.
Before the hymen breaks as a result of sexual intercourse, it protects the vagina from the penetration of infections.
Pain in defloration: causes
Pain in defloration arises because the mucous membrane of the hymen is permeated with blood vessels that, when broken, send pain signals to the brain through nerve endings. In addition, when the hymen rupture in the vagina inflammation can occur, which can also cause pain.
In this case, both the girl and her partner need to learn a little more about the right sexual intercourse, which will take place for the first time. In particular, use lubricants that contain pain medication. And also to study postures that will make loss of virginity less painful, and ways of self-help with pain during defloration.
Symptoms of pain during defloration
Pain in defloration is not the most important symptom. It may not be very strong or very, the bleeding can be active or limited to a few drops. Variants can be different: brightly manifested or mixed. For example, severe pain and small bleeding or vice versa. The presence or almost complete absence of pain depends on how the hymen is arranged and how the act of coition is carried out. And more - from the concrete state of health of the girl at the moment of sexual intercourse.
Those who are afraid of defloration, you need to know that more than a third of girls do not experience pain at the first sexual act. Bleeding during defloration is not present in 10% of cases. And in some cases, the absence of the hymen is observed even at birth - such anatomical features of girls. There are also cases when even at birth in the hymen there is a large hole, so the sexual intercourse does not cause any inconvenience. In this case, bleeding is not observed, because there is no rupture.
Bleeding depends on how delicate was the sexual intercourse and also on whether there are a lot of blood vessels in the hymen. If the blood vessels are small, then there is nowhere to take blood. If there are many of them, bleeding is abundant. Normal is the situation when, after defloration, blood from the vagina goes from one day to a week. Such situations should not be feared, unless, of course, bleeding is not abundant and for a week is not accompanied by severe pain. Then you should go to a gynecologist.
What is defloration?
Physicians distinguish between incomplete and complete defloration. If there are 1-2 discontinuities in the hymen, this is an incomplete defloration. This is the case with coarse sexual intercourse, incorrect gynecological examination, deep penetration of fingers during petting, trauma of the reproductive system. It also happens that the hymen remains in its place even with several sexual acts. It just stretches. If the hymen is very strong, it is removed surgically.
When there is a complete defloration - a complete rupture of the hymen, the girl has a slight bleeding from the vagina. This should not be feared. The main thing is not to bring the infection into the wound and not to injure it even more with subsequent sexual acts.
Many girls are afraid of defloration, because I think that it will bring them a lot of pain. And men, in turn, think that if after the first wedding night they did not see blood on the bed, then the bride is not a virgin. This brings a lot of misunderstanding to both. It is important to know the answers to the questions: how to make defloration an almost painless act and what to do if the hymen does not break?