Soul Pain

Mental pain is also called pain of the psychic body. Sometimes it is more dangerous than bodily diseases, because it causes disruption of the work of all internal organs and causes malfunction of the whole organism. More about heartache

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What is mental pain?

This is a state of the psyche that is not associated with disorders of the body's functions. Mental disorder leads to mental pain. Then they say "my soul hurts". Mental pain occurs when we are very worried about an event or a person close to us.

Mental pain can not let a person go, when his ideas do not converge with what happens in reality. Most of our experiences leading to depression (often long and not passing) are due to the patterns that have formed in our brains, and the reality is completely different from what we expected of it. This leads to disappointment and pain of the soul.

How is the mental pain experienced?

A person can experience a mental pain clearly - and this is good, because emotions are expressed and eventually fade. Or a person is experiencing mental pain in secret, and sometimes, suffering, does not want to admit this. Then he gets rid of mental pain in several ways. Soul pain is transferred from the conscious sensation to the subconscious. A person thinks that he no longer suffers, but it is not. In fact, he uses methods:

• avoiding pain
• resistance to pain by transferring it to the subconscious

If a person is more inclined to show their feelings and deeds, then he begins to look for the way out of the pain, he can consult with friends, friends or seek salvation in removing the root of the problem. For example, heartache is caused by relationships with children - then people are looking for ways to find a common language with them.

The method of avoidance is that a person simply does not recognize a problem, says that everything is good and does not even admit to himself that he is ill with a soul because of something. Then the mental pain remains, but it goes into an implicit, subconscious form, and this condition is very difficult to get rid of, it tortures a person much longer, like open confession and pronouncing the problem.

Hidden heartache

Such pain can last for years, changing the character, the actions of a person and influencing his relationships with others - relatives and colleagues. A person with mental pain can begin to attract negative people into their lives, change the level of acquaintances or even abandon them, ceasing to communicate with people.

Mental pain does not allow a person to create, it is good, with a soul, to work, it even changes the character of a person. At the same time, he may not even understand what is happening to him.

Some situations may remind a person of the one that caused his mental anguish many years ago. But the person who drove his emotions into the subconscious many years ago can cry and experience, not understanding what is happening to him, just looking through some scene from the movie.

In such cases, if you yourself can not cope with the heartache, you need the help of a psychiatrist, a psychologist or just a close person who will be able to listen and understand you.

Pain for Edwin Schneidman

Psychologist Schneidman gave the following definition of mental pain: "She is not at all like a physical or physical pain. Mental pain is those experiences that a person feels as a person. Sorrowful pain is a pain for your own unique human self.

The pain of the soul arises as suffering, torment, longing, confusion. Mental pain is caused by grief, loneliness, guilt, shame, humiliation, fear of something inevitable - death, aging, physical illness. "

According to Schneidman, mental pain is as real for a person as another real event: "When a person experiences emotional pain, her introspective reality does not cause him any doubts."

Do not let the pain come back

There is scientific evidence that in a state of depression we are only a quarter of an hour, the rest of the time we create our own mental pain, prolong it and aggravate it.

Therefore it is important not to return the mental pain again. The return of mental pain is facilitated by similar situations that led to a state of mental pain. Once in a bad situation again, it is important to leave it or at least react differently to avoid a repetition of mental pain.

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How to get rid of heartache?

To get rid of emotional pain, one of the ways is to eliminate its cause. If among the causes of mental pain - the behavior of a person, his attitude towards you, your conflicts with someone, and then you need to remove these reasons, and not work with your emotions towards them.

For example, if you have trouble with the boss at work, causing your heartache, it's worth working on relationships with him, not how you feel about it. That is, remove the very cause of mental pain: to find a common language with the boss or to leave - perhaps this is not your way.

If the mental pain is caused by a situation that can not be changed (for example, death or illness of a loved one) it is worth working on your emotions and perception of reality. This can help an experienced psychologist, if you yourself can not cope.

How to cope with heartache, losing someone or something?

It is very difficult. On psychological rehabilitation with loss, for example, a loved one goes from six months to a year. And only then you can begin to build love relationships with another person, psychologists advise. Otherwise, you will go in the same circle and make the same mistakes.

To cope with the heartache of loss, you must, first, admit to yourself that the situation has already occurred. This will ease your condition, open the pain of the road. Secondly, you need to go through a period of pain, come to your senses. Do not rush into this.

And then you need to build a new future for yourself already without this person or these circumstances. For example, without a loved one or a favorite work. Build everything in detail so that you can imagine what will happen to you when it's not there. " Most often, the real world really becomes the way you build it for yourself in your imagination.

Do not confuse emotional pain with other emotions

Mental pain can actually hide under other masks. Therefore, it can be confused, for example, with anger, resentment, disappointment. That is, in fact you are experiencing other emotions, and the ways of liberation from them are different. To understand what you are experiencing and how to mitigate or transform these feelings, a psychologist or psychotherapist will help.

How to get rid of heartache in simple ways?

There are several ways that first muffle the mental pain, and then remove it completely.

1. Find a person or people who are worse than you. And start taking care of them. That is, you switch your attention to another object and do not begin to think so much about your experiences. It can be children from an orphanage, an old woman from a neighboring house, a kitten, whom you will take in a shelter.
2. Learn the deep breathing systems with a long intake and a short exhalation. Proper breathing will help the cells of your body to recover, the nervous system will become stronger, and with time the pain will pass away.
3. Make a rule for yourself every day to say something pleasant to at least one person. Positive emotions of others can be transmitted to you.
4. Sleep well, because during sleep, many functions of the body are restored, including the work of nerve cells.
5. Take away the muscle clamps. During our experiences, muscles cringe, muscle clamps arise. They can be removed by dancing, exercises, jogging, push-ups and any other physical activity. You can just walk - not less than half an hour a day.
6. Sign up for a massage course. Massage is also able to remove muscle blocks and clamps and give a good mood. Soul pain will become significantly less once you let the positive into your soul.