Pain in sex

Pain in sex is a problem that young girls who are just beginning their sexual life and women who already have considerable sexual experience can face. Far from always coming to mind with these complaints to the doctor - the first think that at the very beginning such pain is the norm, the latter think that if this did not happen with the previous partner, then the problem lies in the concrete man or in the legendary "incompatibility" - and all in the end experience unpleasant feelings only within themselves and do not think about the need to get qualified help.Through a certain time, the body gets used to the pain of sex as something permanent and begins to prepare for its appearance in advance. Therefore, to pose as a hero and pull, do not tolerate the pain.

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Diseases that cause pain in sex

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The causes of pain in sex with men

In representatives of a strong field, pain during sex often causes organic causes, for example, too tight foreskin, which during erection does not bulge and thereby causes pain in the head of the penis, or Peyronie's disease, in which sclerotic plaques appear on the penis, causing curvature genital organ. Periodic pain in sex can occur if there has been an increase in the bridle of the penis. The nature of the partner's behavior on this, of course, does not affect.

The causes of pain in sex with women:

1. Defloration. The main reason is fear. It provokes the contraction of all the muscles of the body, especially the muscles of the vagina. It happens that the hymen has a large thickness and is richly endowed with nerve endings, but often it is still elastic and stretchable, during the first intimate proximity of the rupture does not occur, but only stretching, so there is no sharp pain. Only the woman can overcome fear if she realizes what is happening to her, trust her partner completely and will be sure that she is reliably protected from infections.
2. Vaginismus. If sexual contact (the first time in life or the first with this partner or rape happened) failed, fear of it can strengthen in the subconscious and provoke muscle spasm in advance, which makes sexual intercourse in principle impossible. Pain in sex does not appear due to penetration of the male member, but from the fact that the muscles of the woman are compressed. To treat in this case you need yourself, change your attitude to sex, find a partner, the credibility of which will give you the opportunity to completely relax. Vaginismus, which a woman can not overcome on her own, requires a course of treatment from a sex therapist and psychotherapist.
3. Non-intact hymen. This can be evidenced by the fact that intimacy is already enacted, and pain in sex as the first time. In the process, it may disappear, but at the outset there are unpleasant sensations. As usual, the hymen at the first sexual intercourse is not torn, but only stretched or slightly torn, but remains in place. There are cases when virginity in the physiological sense is broken for the first time only during childbirth. If there is an adequate understanding of this situation, the lubricant is allocated in sufficient quantity and the partner gently treats the woman, this problem is easily solved.
4. Inflammation. If the painful sensations (the presence of pain, burning, itching, friction, sensation of dryness) appear in the vagina during or after sex, the cause, most likely, is the inflammatory process. You need to see a doctor and get a check for sexually transmitted infections (candidiasis, ureaplasmosis, chlamydia, trichomoniasis, gonorrhea). In the sexual life for this period, you should impose restrictions and lead it, using a condom. To go through a course of treatment from the disease that is found out, it will be necessary only together at the same time to the same drugs, and should be protected during treatment with a condom - regardless of the results of the analysis of the man.
5. Spikes. They arise as a result of an earlier inflammation of the intestine or appendages. If you are ever disturbed by recurrent pains of noisy character in the lower abdomen during hypothermia, or delay or loosening of the stool, and bowel disease in childhood - you may have a process of formation of adhesions in the small pelvis. If you have never complained about anything like this, it can also be present, since the inflammation can go on without symptoms. In some women, painful sensations occur with tension and during examination on the gynecological chair, as well as during sexual intercourse. In most cases, the choice of more convenient postures is salvation, if the pain is worried constantly and appears outside of sexual life, it is necessary to take care of the chronic inflammatory process - in particular with the help of physiotherapy.
6. Injury, rupture, postnatal and postoperative sutures. The solution to this problem can be physiotherapeutic or surgical. You can use lubricants for sexual acts, develop the muscles of the pelvic floor, choose the most appropriate postures and tempo for sex.
7. Endometriosis. Such a diagnosis is most often made by women themselves, if observed spotting before or after menstruation. But the main symptom of endometriosis is pain, which appears or intensifies before menstruation and passes along with it. Pain in sex can also be felt inside and be quite strong, which makes intimate life impossible or very painful at this time of the cycle.
8. Stagnation of venous blood. Inconsistency of sexual life, lack of satisfaction, long abstinence, dissatisfaction with relationships - as a result, there is a rush of blood to the pelvic organs, and the necessary outflow is absent. At first, it is expressed by a feeling of heaviness, dissatisfaction, drawing pain after sex, in which there is not enough discharge. After a certain time, the only medicine - a stable sex life with the obligatory achievement of satisfaction becomes not a panacea, but just the opposite - a factor of aggravation: the swollen walls of the vagina hurt because of sexual intercourse, pain occurs when sex is acute. This is not just an unpleasant condition - it is also dangerous: it can provoke the development of many gynecological ailments, such as uterine myoma, endometriosis, mastopathy, ovarian dysfunction and others. It is better not to bring the occasional dissatisfaction to irreversible changes: understand how to please yourself and teach it to your partner.
9. Neuralgia of the pelvic nerves. The pain in the walls of the pelvis, which is strengthened when touched, often has a sharp, shooting character, gives in the leg. Cure it can be the same as another neuralgia: pepper plaster, warming ointments, physioprocedures.
10. Insufficient amount of grease released. This may be the result of a woman's psychological state (unwillingness to have sex, rejection of a partner at the subconscious level, fear of an unwanted pregnancy), surgery to remove the Bartholin gland that secretes lubrication, or hormonal disorders. For violations of the hormonal background, which require correction, drugs help. Containing female sex hormones, if there are no contraindications for their reception. In other cases it is necessary to use artificial moisturizers (lubricants), which are sold in sex shops and pharmacies.
11. Anatomical incompatibility is defined as the discrepancy between the sizes of the sexual organs of the partners. The vagina is extremely stretchable, and if a man does not recognize the clinical gigantism of the penis, then pain in sex from the size of the genital organ should not arise.

Who should I contact if you have pain while having sex?

Pain in sex is always a signal of disorder - perhaps not a dangerous ailment that requires immediate treatment, but a disorder of your psychological state. With the help of painful sensations, the body screams to you - turn your attention to me and help me! Try to hear it and make timely contact with a sexologist.