Birth of a third child, payments for a third child

The birth of a third child is a holiday for the whole family. But mom and dad can be confused: at school and especially in the maternity hospital, mom was not taught to manage so many children. And if the first and second child took up all the attention, then how can you now cope with all three? And parents are also very often interested in the financial side: what are the payments for a third child in Ukraine?

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Payments for the third child

The very first question that worries parents is whether to provide the third child with no less material benefits than the first and second. Childbirth costs are needed – and not small ones – a stroller, diapers, and also proper nutrition for both mother and baby. What payments are provided in Ukraine for the third child?

The Law of Ukraine “On State Aid to Families with Children” provides for a benefit for the third child according to the amount of the subsistence minimum. This benefit is paid for children under six years of age and is calculated starting from the baby’s birthday. A total of 120 subsistence minimums are paid for the third child. This amount, starting from January 1, 2012, is 107,160 hryvnia. It is paid for the third and each subsequent child. If a mother gives birth to twins, the second child is considered the next, and she receives a benefit for each of them.

The one-time assistance paid to the mother after the birth of the third child is 8930 UAH. And the rest of the money from 107 160 UAH is paid to the family for 72 months, that is, six years. The amount that results from these calculations is 1364.31 UAH per month. This is how much parents in Ukraine receive state assistance for their third child and subsequent children.

How to distribute attention to all three children?

According to psychologists and sociologists, parents are biologically programmed for at least two children. One child in a family is not as natural as two or three. But raising three children has its own peculiarities. Here, parents must be able to completely reorient themselves from themselves as the main "engine" of the family and learn to distribute responsibilities.

If in a family with only one child, all the attention is on him, then in a large family the parents' attention is distributed between all three children, and then the parents must learn to give them assignments, make the children their full-fledged assistants, and not just the receiving party.

Eldest child

In no case should he be removed from the upbringing of younger brothers and sisters. In this way, the child will be included in the general family process and will have his own roles there. For example, rocking a brother or sister, bringing water to mom, watering flowers, putting away his things. It is very important to understand that the child should not be relieved of his responsibilities of helping around the house, but he should not be overloaded either.

When an older child grows up, he needs to be given individual attention from time to time, which is now occupied by younger children. And the older child really misses the psychological role of a baby, a favorite, a spoiled child, which is almost lost for him. From time to time, he needs to be returned to the psychological niche of childhood - this is a very good therapy that gives the older child a sense of security.

Parents should know that each activity of an older child should have a time frame so that he does not become overloaded and the activity does not make him sick. For example, it is difficult for a preschooler to push a stroller for more than 20 minutes at a time. More than half an hour of playing with a younger brother and sister can be a tiring activity if the game does not correspond to the age characteristics of the older child. If the older child is a middle or senior schoolchild, you cannot shift all the responsibilities of the house and caring for younger children onto him - he should have his own personal time.

Second (middle) child

This child is sort of in the middle - between the eldest, who is considered the most important and who is assigned the most responsibilities, and the youngest, who now gets the most attention from parents, because he is the most defenseless for now. Therefore, the second (middle) child may not receive enough attention from parents. This gap must be filled, because children remain children much longer than parents think. They really need their attention and affection. Therefore, the second child also needs to be given a sense of his importance, significance, value.

He should have his own responsibilities in the family, and some of these responsibilities should concern caring for the younger child. This way, your middle child will feel more independent and responsible, and therefore more important to his parents and himself.

How to prepare older children for the birth of a third child?

About 3 months before the birth of the third child in the family, you need to prepare the older children for this. You need to tell them that they will now have a brother or sister and ask for their help and support. To make it easier for mom and dad to manage the children, you need to adjust their daily routine so that the older children fall asleep and wake up, bathe and eat at about the same time. This way, mom will be able to save money.

Two children are also a company. The older children will not feel separated and will unite more if they help each other with household chores and live in the same room. Now the second child automatically moves from the place of the "younger", "favorite" to the place of the middle child. And it will be much easier for him if he is in the same bundle with the older one.

Both children need to be told that their parents love them. Despite being busy, after the birth of the third child, parents must definitely observe simple traditions that are VERY IMPORTANT FOR CHILDREN. For example, wish them good night, kissing the children, walk with them in the park in the evening from 6 p.m. to 6.30 p.m. or take them to the swings on Sunday.

When these traditions are observed, the world of older children does not collapse and they understand that their parents still love them. They will be less capricious, pulling the carpet of attention to themselves, and will help mom and dad more.

Having a third child can completely change the family's way of life. But it's up to you whether it will be a joy for everyone or a hassle.