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Parents and children: how to achieve mutual understanding?
Last reviewed: 06.07.2025
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It is impossible to teach children to be happy if their parents are unhappy. Children worry if they see their parents do not like each other. They may not talk about it, but when their parents have internal conflicts, children react with illness or depression. It is important to recognize these signs in time and improve the atmosphere between parents and children in the family. It is very important for children to understand (feel) that their arrival creates a festive atmosphere for their parents, grandparents. You don’t need to tell a child about this: he understands it with his sixth sense.
Important! If there is a conflict between parents and children (hidden or obvious) or between parents in a family, the child may suddenly and for a long time fall ill and even lag behind in mental and physical development. Lack of self-confidence and depression are the next companions of problems in the family. Both parents and children suffer.
Be flexible
If parents have taken on the role of unshakable despots, unable to change their beliefs, this can be detrimental to the child. Flexibility is a very important trait in raising children. It is necessary to understand that the beliefs and worldview of a child can be radically different from the ideas of adults. And their views on the world.
Therefore, it is imperative to accept your child's ideas and beliefs and allow him to believe in what he believes. This will give the child the ability to stand firm in the most extreme circumstances. And besides, the ability to apologize allows parents (paradoxically?) to receive the most important thing from the child - love and respect.
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Take care of your child's nerves
The child's nervous system grows and develops. If parents and children are in a state of conflict, the child's nervous system may malfunction. This may affect the gastrointestinal tract (under unfavorable psychological circumstances, the child's gastric juice may be secreted more slowly or faster than necessary).
The blood vessels of the brain can also suffer from an unfavorable psychological environment. Therefore, it is important that the relationship between parents and children in the family is as gentle as possible. How yourchild will feel in general depends on this.
How to achieve mutual understanding between parents and children - you probably already understand. You just need to listen to your baby, hear what he wants to tell you, and take his needs into account as much as possible. Now all that remains is to put this into practice.