Children in a large family: 5 for and 4 against

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Last reviewed: 19.10.2021

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Children in a large family have their own advantages and problems. In some countries, for example, such as ours, children from a large family have numerous benefits on receipt or receipt of material benefits. In China, on the contrary, they try to reduce the birth rate by restricting benefits for large families. Let's look at the pros and cons of a large family.


What is a large family?

In Ukraine and Russia, a family with three children or up to 16 years of age is considered to be large. If children learn, the status of "child" is extended to 23 years inclusive. And adopted children, adopted children, and relatives are considered as children. But it is worth noting that not all people want to have the status of a large family - for today there are only 3-5% in our country. Therefore, the state tries to encourage citizens to give birth to children financially.

In Ukraine and Russia, large families receive state support under the state program to support large families. For example, families with many children, where three or more children under 18 years of age who live in the same area with their parents, are entitled to a free land plot.

Large families also receive benefits and subsidies for housing and communal services. Mothers in such families are entitled to a reduction in the retirement age, and both parents are entitled to tax benefits and increased holidays (up to 36 days instead of 24 days).

In China, the situation is completely different. Since 1970, the government has been trying to limit the birth rate. Families in the city are allowed to have no more than 1 child, and in the village - no more than 2 children, but only if the first baby is a girl. If more children are born in the family, the parents pay a large sum in the form of a fine. They can also be excluded from the ranks of the ruling party - the communist party.

"For" a large family

Researchers, comparing several types of families, determined that in a large family, the child has more chances to grow up as a socially adapted person.


Children in large families grow up united

In a family with three or more children, everyone has to adapt to the conditions of mutual assistance. Older children look after the younger, are responsible for the work of the house and therefore grow more friendly.

Parents in such a family are also more friendly, because they have to solve many problems that need to be discussed first. The common responsibility for the material and psychological well-being of the family unites them. Such spouses are always divorced much less often than couples with 1-2 children.



As children in large families have to communicate with each other and with their parents, they grow more communicative. This skill then helps them in their careers and family life.

Striving for material well-being

Parents who raise many children, as a rule, have a worse financial position than those who have less than three children. But this is an additional incentive to earn. In addition, children who grew up in a large family and are accustomed to common toys and clothes, often in adulthood tend to make up lost time and earn more.


Children from large families quickly adapt to any situation and any company. This makes it possible to move faster along the career ladder and establish intimate contacts. Such children, as a rule, are more successful in family life, as they had before their eyes the example of a mother and father who constantly overcame role-based family conflicts. Children from large families have no illusions about the "beautiful prince" and "the beautiful princess" as partners. They do not put to them inflated demands and do not escape responsibility themselves. This helps to avoid divorce.


Psychological stability

This quality is enjoyed by children from large families, as their parents, as a rule, fully enjoy them. It helps to cope with different life tasks, than they actually did all their childhood.

"Against" a large family

The large family has for children not only its advantages, but also, of course, its disadvantages. This is normal and natural. And yet these disadvantages are worth knowing

Material issue

The government's material aid, despite the benefits, subsidies and additional payments, is still insufficient to provide children with a full life. Still, parents must earn extra money. As a rule, in large families many things are learned to do themselves: carpentry, sewing, cooking, repair - all this saves costs.

Attention Deficit

Children in large families can not afford the luxury of being alone with their parents and getting maximum attention from them. They are always brought up in a team. And the kids so lack this psychological role - to be a defenseless baby, and that only he alone gets the time and the love of his parents. This gives rise to self-doubt or vice versa - a hypertrophied sense of responsibility, because you need to look after the younger ones, do homework that never ends.

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Great psychological load

Children in families with many children lose their early childhood, in which the child is much longer if he is alone with his parents. Therefore, children in families with many children can develop early a propensity for leadership, the position "I decide for all". This can increase the social and psychological burden of the child - not by age.

Lack of personal space

It is very rare when children in a large family live in separate rooms, especially if there are more than four children. Therefore, they have a permanent "hostel", such children are deprived of their personal space. On the one hand, it increases the ability to adapt, on the other hand - does not allow to fully develop, manifest itself fully.

Think about what kind of family you would like to have - whether it is large or not? Children from a large family have their rights and responsibilities, and only you decide what is more important for you and what is more valuable.

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