How to behave with a quick-tempered child?

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Last reviewed: 19.10.2021

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To understand, hot-tempered at you the child or not, you can already when to it 2 - 2,5 years will turn out. At this age, he begins to show his feelings and reactions verbally, that is, words. And then it is very important to tell the child what his reaction is correct, and which will harm him and others. Why is a child hot-tempered and what to do about it?


Spitfire is a disease or a deviation?

Neither one nor the other, doctors say. Most likely, this is the child's inability to show his emotions. Emotional education is an important part of the work of adults, which they do not always know how to perform. After all, adults do not learn to bring up emotions. Therefore, their children can grow hot-tempered - otherwise they just do not know how to say that. That they have in their hearts.

What is the child's temper? This is a behavioral reaction when a child can show anger, capriciousness, tearfulness on the slightest, even frivolous occasion. The child can be outraged by an incautious phrase, a word, even a glance. And the adult at this time it seems that nothing offensive was said. An impetuous child shows more helplessness and inability to cope with the situation than aggression. Spitfire is more of a cry for help, expressed in such a ridiculous and clamorous form. For communication this is very inconvenient, because of the temper of the child, he suffers, and his environment.

Spitfires are most often vulnerable. Spitfire is more characteristic of sanguine and choleric people than phlegmatic. Melancholics are also prone to outbursts of anger, tearfulness and depression. Thus, the temperament of a child depends also on his temperament.

What kind of a quick-tempered child is he?

If parents fluctuate, their child is hot-tempered or not, it is worth paying attention to some features of his behavior.

  • The child is very easily annoyed and immediately expresses his discontent with a cry or whims
  • The child after any, even minor irritation, does not think what to say to him, but immediately acts, and very noisy and abruptly
  • A child who promises to be quick-tempered, is excessively active even when he has not yet learned to walk. His motor skills are fast, sharp, a child can often cry. And when such a baby grows up, he can make hysterics. Falling to the floor and knocking on it with your feet.
  • A child who is quick-tempered, pays more attention to movements than meditations.

How to correct the child's temper?

Correct the child's temper can be confident behavior and explanations of how one can express one or another emotion. Very good for children of primary school age, there are fairy tales, where each character has a role. Let one of the heroes of your tale be quick-tempered so that the child sees himself from the side. And then let the same hero behave normally, and the child will see the difference in the results.

At the earliest age it is necessary to patiently explain to the child what is good and what is not. The child must learn clear boundaries: what kind of behavior is effective, and which will bring only trouble to him and others. This will help the child to better navigate in society.

You can not shout at a quick-tempered child. We need to let him calm down and quietly, but firmly explain what behavior is expected of him and why.

You can not force the child to shut up, you just need to distract him from the source of irritation, quietly switching to another activity. When the child calms down, it is important to find out from him why he is so angry and excited, and offer him options for behavior. If a child learns to express his emotions in a normal tone, it will give him the opportunity to continue without irritation to talk about what he is achieving with his behavior, what worries him.

How can a child cope with irritation?

There are many fascinating and effective psychological methods that allow a child to splash out his emotions and not get angry. You can try several of these methods and thus find out which one works best for your child. Pay attention: these psychological "keys" must be used when the child is angry and annoyed, because in quiet moments they are of little help.

"To break anger"

When the child is angry, you can draw on his little leaf his anger (or let him draw) and give in hand, let him vomit. It is necessary to explain to the child that this is how he now tears his anger, irritability, quick temper, copes with them. Anger can be drawn in the form of a muzzle with teeth.

"Kill anger with a pillow"

A comic battle with cushions should help relieve anger and even make the child laugh. This will relieve tension and will naturally translate the irritation into the game.


To relieve tension, you can talk to each other. But not really, offensive, but with jokes-jokes. For example, call the child an apple, and he will answer you - a cat. Such a comic game makes it possible to modify energy - from destructive to comic.

Spilling out his emotions, the child thereby struggles with his own quick temper. And if you help him, the child will certainly succeed.

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