Problems of a schoolboy-tihoni
If the student does not express an interest in the class, he is rated much lower than the other children. When a schoolboy grows up, his passivity does not allow him to show himself well in a circle of peers and give an opportunity to show his own "I".
The problem is that adults would do something if the child was aggressive and capricious. And so it does not bother - and well, and we will not touch it. This harms the child, because he can hide such negative emotions, which neither parents nor teachers even guess. And they in fact need to be solved. Otherwise, later, in adult life, unresolved problems will turn into a mass of complexes and failures. True, it is not necessary to act immediately with respect to such a child, not aggressively, not aggressively, but patiently and gradually, so as not to harm the schoolchild's fragile psyche ...
Psychological features of a schoolboy-tikhoni
Russian psychologist L.Slavina very carefully studied the problems of children who behave passively. And she formed the features of their behavior. These features are three:
- The child does not have sufficient intellectual skills and skills
- Child does not like intellectual work
- The child is not interested in knowing the world around him
Let's look at each of these features to better understand the schoolboy-quiet.
Insufficient intellectual skills are gaps in the upbringing and development of the child. So, they did not do much with him, they did not explain to him anything interesting, they did not cause him any interest in learning new things. Simply put - the child was not brought up curiosity. Such a schoolboy simply does not know how to experience the joy of learning. This interest needs to be developed. When a schoolboy learns to find useful information for himself and answers well in the lesson, he will develop the habit of knowing further. After all, this makes it successful.
Non-acceptance of intellectual work. This factor is the result of the first point. If a schoolboy can not boast of his skills and skills in intellectual activity, then he does not like to engage in intellectual work. After all, he does not show brilliant results in this. So - why try? A schoolboy likes to do what he is praised for. Therefore, even small achievements of the child in intellectual activity should be encouraged, developing his interest in it.
The schoolboy is not interested in the world around him. Loss of interest in the environment happens when the child is presented with inflated demands, which he can not fulfill due to his psychological or physiological characteristics. And the child reacts by loss of interest. He has no practice of intellectual pursuits, which are encouraged and make his work effective, successful. Therefore, it is necessary to give children simple tasks, with which he can easily cope, and praise for every success. So from a schoolboy, you can make a giant of thought.
Reasons for passivity in class
Problems with the student's excessive passivity in class and in games, relationships with peers can be caused by biological features of the structure of the nervous system.
Another reason is heredity. If the parents of the child, his grandparents preferred to sit quietly in the corner, the child can consider this behavior normal and inherit it.
The reason for the passivity of the child may also be a microtrauma of the brain, obtained during pregnancy or childbirth. This is a psychological deviation that does not threaten the student's life, but leaves an imprint on his behavior. Such children around the world recorded quite a lot - up to 10%.
The passivity of a schoolboy in class can also be caused by upbringing, in which too many prohibitions were imposed on the child. That is impossible, it is impossible, but it is not allowed at all. As a result, since childhood, the child has become accustomed to living within and, to protect himself from his own desires, becomes indifferent to all activities, including intellectual activity.
The child can be passive in school and because of the poor psychological climate in the family. Acutely reacting to scandals with the house, it can close in its shell, isolating itself from the world, and manifest itself as little as possible. By this behavior he as though speaks: "I am afflicted, do not touch me!"
How to overcome the passivity of a schoolboy?
Only not by aggression and not by orders. The child will become even more closed or carry out your order, but without any enthusiasm. It is necessary to help the child to get out of his shell, to prove himself, and to make it a habit for him.
It is very important that the child can talk about what he feels and what his desires are. The adult needs to spend for this time, to show patience and tact in order to achieve results. And you need to start as soon as possible, as soon as the child has learned to speak.
As soon as adults managed to find an object to which the child experiences real, lively interest - they almost beat the schoolboy's passivity.