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What would change about sex if you lost weight?
Last reviewed: 08.07.2025

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You can change the quality of your sex life by simply… changing your weight. When a person loses weight, say American researchers from the State of Ohio, their libido (sexual desire) increases. And then the quality of sex becomes much better. Women and men who have lost weight begin to behave and feel completely differently, and the brightness of their sexual impressions increases.
Personal prejudices
They can be as small as cockroaches, but they never leave us. For example, the prejudice that a fat (sorry, plump) woman cannot be sexy. Or that an overweight man cannot fully make love – his belly or something else gets in the way. Buttocks, for example.
Another prejudice is that an overweight couple looks comical in bed, like bears or sumo wrestlers who decided to have some fun. In general, these prejudices can be listed for a long time, wasting time and never getting to the point: all this is complete nonsense. In fact, it is not how much you weigh that matters, but how sexy you feel.
But if you can't just let go of your prejudices, lose some of your weight first. That way, you'll feel thinner—and sexier. What else do you get for sex when you lose weight?
- Boost your own libido
- Increase the production of sex hormones, which will begin to be secreted more actively as soon as you lose a little weight
- You will eat healthier foods that will help lower your blood cholesterol levels and protect your blood vessels from becoming clogged.
- Improve your own mood because your thoughts will tell you: “Yes, yes, I did it!!”
- You will do sports (and how else will you lose weight) and thus improve blood circulation, remove excess toxins from the body
- You will buy yourself new clothes and new sexy lingerie because the old ones have become loose on you.
- You will finally believe that you are making your partner desire you!
In order to reward yourself with all these benefits, it is worth identifying the reasons that prevent you from remaining sexy and desirable at the weight you are currently at.
How does excess weight affect decreased libido?
Recently, a medical center in New York conducted research that revealed the impact of excess weight on the decrease in sexual desire. So, more than a third of people with excess weight sought help from a sexologist. They complained that their sexual desire was fading and was reduced to zero. Why does this happen? Scientists who participated in the study explain it this way.
High blood cholesterol levels in people suffering from excess weight and the body's "indifference" to insulin, which indicates a tendency to diabetes, also affect potency, especially in men. The body produces a hormone that has the property of inhibiting the production of sex hormones and affecting sexual desire. It fades as potency falls. This hormone even has a name - globulin. It binds the production of sex hormones, in particular, testosterone. Thus, a man becomes sexually sluggish, uninitiative.
When cholesterol in the vessels increases, the tiny arteries in the penis of men become clogged with fats, which leads to impotence or erectile dysfunction. And when a man suffers from such a problem as insufficient hardness of the penis, he does not want to have sex. That's the whole solution.
Obese women also experience a decline in sexual desire, because their excess weight slows down their blood circulation. This means that their genitals (in particular, the clitoris) receive little blood and the oxygen it carries. Therefore, a woman's desire for sex also begins to manifest itself sluggishly, because a woman cannot respond to a man's sexuality with the proper organ - her clitoris does not swell. That is, the system is the same as in men with a phallus. Hence the conclusion - it is worth getting rid of fatty foods and excess cholesterol, clogging blood vessels - and sexual desire can increase significantly.
Simple ways to stimulate potency
You won't believe it, but researchers write that losing just 5 kg leads to an increase in sexual desire. And quite actively. But that's not all. As soon as a person starts eating healthier food with less fat, but more vegetables and fruits, the blood glucose level normalizes, the cholesterol level gradually returns to normal, and this can activate libido, even if the weight has not moved from the dead point a bit.
Physical exercises that overweight people have not previously practiced can significantly improve their sex life. How? Physical activity increases blood flow to the genitals of men and women and promotes sexual desire even without losing weight. This is especially true for women – the effect of physical exercises is stronger and faster for them.
What physical exercises should you choose to activate your libido? The list is varied and interesting. These are:
- Yoga
- Fast walking
- Running
- Oriental dances
- Cycling
In general, any activity that improves blood circulation in the buttocks, genitals, thighs. As a result, during intercourse, the woman becomes more aroused, she secretes more lubricant, she reaches orgasm faster. Consequently, next time her sexual sensations will be even brighter and sexual desire will arise faster.
A very good arousing factor for returning sexual desire can be light erotic novels. Just 15 minutes of such reading at least every other day - and a person focuses on sexual arousal, and not on thoughts about replacing balcony doors.
Your head is responsible for your sex, not your genitals
Your sexual desire does not arise because you have lost or gained weight, but because you think of yourself as sexy. Many men and women simply need to control their physical form - and everything will be fine with sex. What you think about your image that you see in the mirror is your sexuality. Sexologists insist that a low self-esteem as a lover leads to the fading of sexual desire - and vice versa. The ability to accept and love your weight and size gives you the opportunity to choose from a large number of sexual partners and be desirable to them.
Experts believe that the sexuality of overweight people is the courage to overcome shyness for the sake of experiencing vivid sexual sensations. Agree that it is very difficult to enjoy sex. If at the same time you think that your breasts look saggy and your buttocks are too full. And it is even more difficult to bring pleasure to your partner.
The way they look in sex becomes a "thing" for both men and women. And yet, doctors note that women are more inclined to exaggerate their own shortcomings and suffer from a lack of sexual desire because of this. Moreover, she persists in rejecting herself even when a man tells her words of love and admiration. Men are less likely to be dissatisfied with themselves because of excess weight. They still remain males in any image.
Still Don't Want Sex? See a Doctor
If you think that physical exercise, light erotic reading and tasty but healthy food are not enough for you with your weight, and you need to change the thoughts in your head, go to a doctor. It does not necessarily have to be a sexologist - it can be a sexologist who specializes in the individual's attitude to himself, changing body image, weight, losing weight and everything related to this.
Besides, it would be useful to pay attention to statistics. More than 70% of overweight men and women do not experience any problems with sexuality, which means that you may be among them.
So, what will change in your sex if you lose weight? First of all, your attitude towards yourself. And all successes, including sexual ones, start with it.