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How to increase sexual confidence?
Last reviewed: 04.07.2025
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The secret to increasing your sexual confidence is to love yourself and believe that you deserve pleasure. The key is not to ask yourself if you are sexy, but to know that you are. How do you do this? How can you increase your own sexual confidence?
Your sexual confidence
- Allow yourself some pleasure, including sexual pleasure. Learn more about your body. Find out what you like in sex. This will help you increase your sexual confidence.
- Try to wear expensive and sexy clothes. Why should you wait for a special occasion to feel sexy and attractive? Get rid of those clothes that make you feel old, fat, disgusting. Don't even wear them at home when no one sees you. Expensive and comfortable clothes can give you more sexual confidence than you think.
- Don't forget about sexy underwear (this applies to men too). This little secret will make you think about sex and it will also affect your sexual self-confidence.
- Don't be shy about discussing sexual topics with your friends. You might learn a lot of interesting and useful things about yourself from them. It's like sharing sexual experiences with others.
- Also, if you are able to discuss these things with other people, it will be much easier for you to resolve the existing problems with your partner. And thus improve your sexual self-confidence.
- If your partner constantly criticizes your sexual habits, appearance, etc., do not hesitate to break off this relationship. But if this is an important person for you, try to explain to him that it is unpleasant for you to hear such things.
- Write down on a piece of paper: "I love about myself...", and try to write something new every day. This will help you increase your sexual confidence.
- Start taking air and sun baths. Enjoy the fresh air. Take a leaf or a flower, move it over your body. Concentrate on your feelings.
- Use your imagination... Write an erotic story where you are the main character. But don't be shy. Feel your sexuality and it will help you to increase your sexual self-confidence.
- Try light and enjoyable physical exercises. Good physical condition will help you get rid of shyness, and you will be able to have sex in any position.
- Smile. This is a very good way to demonstrate your trust in your partner. A sexy smile is very attractive to others.
And lastly, be confident in yourself and your sexuality and you will succeed!