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Last reviewed: 23.04.2024
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If in the intima there is absolutely no place to grow and sex has become not a bright event, but a boring duty, diversify it with the help of these simple tips. So, what are the 10 best ways to diversify sex?
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Council number 1. Assign Sexual Dating
If a couple meets or lives together for long years or months, you need to plan meetings that necessarily end in sex. The background before sex means a lot. If it's not just a triangle: having supped-undressed-in bed, sex will become much more romantic and desirable. Go to the park for a walk, ride a carousel, a ferris wheel or motorcycles, dine at a restaurant, and then have sex. It will bring you a lot more romantic sensations than in a normal setting. If what you do before sex, brings both pleasure, then sex itself will cause a lot more emotions.
Council number 2. From time to time, spend the night not at home
Strange advice, but it works one hundred percent. At least once every two weeks, allocate funds for that. To have sex not in the familiar surroundings of your own bedroom, but in a hotel or at a friend's dacha. Yes little romantic options that diversify your intimate life. According to psychologists, the best experience in sex is the one that couples get now, not yesterday or tomorrow. In an unaccustomed situation, the brain turns off and stops thinking about what you would think at home - such as "fix the tap" or "calm the children."
For those who have been together for a long time, it's good to change the situation from time to time. Best of all, this will happen in a place that does not contain memories of your time spent together. New sensations in everyday life - new sensations in sex. They can be the brightest in your life ...
Council number 3. Change the design of your bedroom
One and the same agent can be boring for a long time, sexologists say. Your usual bedroom interior can be both pinched by, even if you provided for it in large mirror ceilings and a romantic half-light. Change the design of your bedroom cardinally. For example, pastel colors are replaced by bright red or yellow. This simple move can change a lot in your sexual feelings.
If you do not plan a full coup, change the pleasant things to the heart and body. Lay a new silk underwear, light a candle and buy a beautiful fan. These small at first glance changes are able to completely transform the interior and make the sensations more saturated.
And one more advice on the bedroom - take out of it everything that does not concern sex and rest: children's toys, books, unnecessary clothes.
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Tip # 4. Confess to yourself in your sexual fantasies
Many people live to a very old age and do not admit to themselves (not to mention the partner), what they want in sex in fact. Of course, it will become boring if from day to day you practice the same missionary position in the same bedroom. Therefore, be brave and answer each other the questions: "What would you like to change in our sex with you?"
You can get a completely unexpected answer, not to mention the fact that you yourself can admit to unexpected things. The mere thought that your sexual fantasies are about to come true will already heat you up and make sex more intense.
A discussion of these fantasies with your partner (partner) will bring new notes to your sex.
Tip # 5. Ask what your partner really wants from sex (partner)
Perhaps you have never asked this half of this simple, but courageous question. That is why you do not know what are the real sexual desires of your partner (partner). And maybe, they completely coincide with your sexual desires, in which you did not admit yourself, and even your partner - even more so?
And did you know that one of the most common couples when referring to a sexologist is that one side in sex is much more active or passive than another. Men and women complain about each other that one of them is interested in sex much more than the other. Hence the discrepancy of intimate desires. And when a person loses interest in the process? When everything goes wrong, as he wants. Having communicated frankly, much can be corrected.
Council number 6. Continually learn something new in sex
If you do not do this, monotony in the intimate will bounce very quickly, even with great love. Read the literature, buy CDs with new methods of sex, change your underwear. Try role-playing games - in short, constantly experiment. This will give brightness and novelty to your sexual relationships.
Many couples are afraid of the slightest changes in sex life. But you just have to try - and you can open a completely new planet of sensations.
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Council number 7. Admit to yourself in your sexual problems
You can not wave at them and ignore the difficulties in sex. If you do it all the time, the quality of sex is greatly reduced. If these are medical problems (for example, reproductive system diseases), you need to take a short break and cope with them. Many do not do this, fearing that the partner (partner) will not understand them. This is fundamentally wrong. If the problem is aggravated, the quality of sex will decrease and a situation may arise when making love becomes unpleasant for both.
The obstacle to bright sex can be psychological problems. Then they also need to be solved together. A frank conversation and a visit to a sexologist will help to cope with any tasks on the love front.
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Council number 8. Do not hurry
When the couple slowly explores each other and does not hurry to use the most tried, but the shortest method, it brings pleasure to both. Many couples make the same mistake: they find out what the partner likes, and they constantly apply the same method (or a couple of methods). This is the shortest and the right road to pleasure. But such monotony soon becomes boring. In addition, studies show that premature ejaculation in men is lost without any treatment, as soon as the couple begins to experiment slowly.
At the woman at such approach also self-doubt, zazhatost and the desire to finish all as soon as possible vanishes. Playfulness, deliberation and creativity are the three whales on which sex is held.
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Council number 9. Do not compare yourself to pornstars
Comparing yourself with someone whose level will always remain insurmountable for you is harmful. It's pointless to try to be like movie stars or models. The best way to diversify relationships is to be yourself.
The fact that your intimate life "should be" such and such or such is a harmful delusion that makes you waste time and energy. How much time to spend on sex, how they should be and what should not - you decide only, and not the heroes of the reality show, on which you try to be like. Do not worry about who you might be similar in appearance or behavior - or your partner. Think not about what you should, but about what you really want.
Council number 10. Do not stop
Do not be afraid that any attempt to improve your sex life will lead you to the wrong place. The most interesting road is the unknown. On it and go, it will bring a lot of interesting to you and your half.
Do not stop in an attempt to find the golden mean in sex and get stuck on it. This is an ungrateful path. It is important to constantly learn, work - and then your lovemaking, as well as constant experiments with a partner (partner) you will never get bored.
You can read these 10 tips on how to improve your sex life, and follow them. And you can come up with your own, even more successful and bright. The main thing is not to stand still, and your success will find you.