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The 12 secrets of rough sex
Last reviewed: 01.07.2025
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Sometimes every sexual relationship needs a shake-up and new sensations. To reignite the waning flame of love, try following these simple rules recommended by Laura Berman, a professor of psychiatry and obstetrics and gynecology at the Feinberg School of Medicine at Northwestern University.
Touch sensitive points
Stimulating sensitive areas during friction will help you reach the highest point of pleasure. The most advantageous position is direct contact of the clitoris with the man's pubis. A pillow placed under the woman's buttocks will also help you achieve an orgasm. In this case, the friction of the genitals increases with each movement. You can also try sex using a vibrator.
Communication during sex
Communication plays an important role in sexual relations, because partners should tell each other which positions or caresses bring them more pleasure. Do not be afraid to consult and voice your desires.
[ Know your body
It will be difficult for you to guide your partner if you yourself are poorly aware of your feelings and sensations, so listen to what your body responds to. Masturbation is also a very effective means of such self-knowledge.
Train your muscles
To reach the heights of pleasure, you need strong muscles. The best exercise is squeezing. You need to determine which muscle in the perineum stops urination and train it every day.
Take risks
According to researchers, sharing risky situations releases the hormone dopamine, which stimulates sexual desire. So, who doesn't risk it...
Delay the moment of receiving pleasure
The longer you can delay the onset of orgasm, the brighter it will be. This can be achieved by slowing down the pace of the sexual race each time.
Watch erotic movies
Erotica excites, fills with sensuality and desire. If you prefer porn, then don't be shy, fire up your imagination. The more excited you are, the higher the chances of getting a fantastic orgasm.
Watch your breathing
If you can focus on how you breathe, sex will take on new colors. By breathing in unison with your partner, you can become even more aroused, which will certainly end amazingly.
Prelude requires imagination
If your partner is not nearby, but only on the way, use this time to further warm up the feelings. Sexual SMS will excite him and make his imagination work vigorously.
Medicines can cause harm
Antidepressants can have a negative impact on sexual life. And according to statistics, women take these drugs more often than men. If you feel unwell, seek help from a doctor.
Don't delay your visit to the doctor
If you cannot achieve orgasm, then you should contact a professional as soon as possible.
Relax
Many women cannot fully surrender to sexual relations, constantly being in a state of tension. The reasons may be problems at work or some life adversity. However, in sex all this is unnecessary, so try to part with such thoughts already on the threshold of the bedroom.