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6 of the most common excuses women give for not having sex
Last reviewed: 01.07.2025
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No matter how strong the relationship is, there are situations when the desire to have sex is completely absent. This is not surprising, because we are all human and each of us has such moments. But how you do not want to offend your other half... It is for this reason that many women come up with various excuses. The most popular of them, of course, are headaches and fatigue.
We will give you some examples of the most popular female excuses and hope that you will use them as little as possible, because there is nothing more beautiful than the relationship between two loving hearts.
Well, as they say, you can’t get anywhere without this excuse: “I have a headache.”
This phrase has become legendary and is successfully used in jokes. If you really have a headache, then treat it quickly... with sex. Yes, that's right! According to experts, the effect of analgesics can be compared to good sex, so "take" the natural, and don't stuff yourself with pills.
One of the most popular excuses is “I’m tired and don’t want anything.”
Of course, you can understand those women who, after coming home from work and feeding the whole family, dream only of a pillow and a sound sleep, but not of sexual pleasures. However, even for such a state there is a cure - "warm up" yourself during the day. For example, having carved out a free minute at work, indulge in pleasant sexual fantasies or, having come home, greet your husband with a passionate kiss that will send shivers down your spine. According to experts, if you do not set yourself up for fatigue and do not think of sex as an obligation, then you will feel less exhausted.
Next comes another phenomenal “excuse”: “I don’t have time.”
If you live only for work, cleaning, washing and a million other different things, then you still won’t get everything done, so relax and enjoy yourself. Moreover, this is not the best reason to refuse sex, because fifteen minutes is more than enough.
"I'm not in the mood."
Sometimes a woman needs time to ignite passion and flame in herself. There may be no obvious reasons for reluctance, just no mood and that's it. In this case, experts advise to undress and just cuddle each other. This will enhance the process of producing pheromones that cause sexual desire. Sometimes a couple of minutes is enough for a woman to return to her mood.
"I hate my thighs."
The word hips in this case is not important, because women can choose any part of the body as a target for their discontent and criticism, even if it does not have a single flaw. Such thoughts are unsafe, because if you talk about it every time to your partner, who, by the way, chose you, then sooner or later he will also notice the fold on your stomach. Blame yourself, no one pulled your tongue. It is best to stop these conversations and, as psychologists advise, dress up in beautiful, seductive lingerie and stand on high heels. You will immediately feel how self-doubt goes away, and all complexes dissolve.
And finally, in our opinion, the most stupid excuse is “I’m watching a TV series.”
Surely many will disagree, finding a thousand and one reasons why you need to watch "Sex and the City" or "Housewives". But just think, you watch serial relationships and are touched by the love of the characters, when in reality you refuse your own. In extreme cases, you can watch the missed episode in the recording.
Well, we hope that you will be healthy and will only laugh at all these excuses!
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