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Love games

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Last reviewed: 06.07.2025
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In the language of sexologists, love games are called the first phase of sexual contact – foreplay. Foreplay is needed so that a man and a woman with different sexual temperaments can control their sexual intensity and reach orgasm at the same time.

Features of a woman in love games

Love games depend entirely on the partners' imagination. They can be carried out anywhere - even on a chandelier. The bed is the most common and most banal way to conduct foreplay, but far from the only one. The peculiarity of love games is that a couple can have different temperaments, and if one partner needs to ignite their passion, then the other, on the contrary, needs to restrain their love ardor.

During love games, a couple can use touching erogenous zones, hugs, kisses, vibrating strokes, tender words, and biting. In love games, a man is more inventive by nature than a woman. She is more of a receiving party. Biologically, a woman is more secretive in showing her emotions, and it is important for a man to take this into account. But she is more sensitive and experiences her sexual emotions more deeply and longer.

If the woman in a couple is more active than the man, then her caresses are more refined and gentle than the man’s.

The Sexiest Kisses

In different cultures, kisses are interpreted differently. For example, some African peoples either do not kiss at all or consider kissing extremely indecent. For example, on the island of Fiji, even today, lovers rub noses and puff instead of kissing. This is an expression of love. Most couples, according to sexologists, do not know how to kiss. This deprives sexual intimacy of the intensity of sensations. Meanwhile, for a woman, the lips and tongue of her partner are more irritants of the erogenous zones than his hands.

Some couples prefer kissing the inside of the lips. They enjoy it. A variation of this kiss can be a kiss on the lower lip, when the man grabs it, touching it with his tongue. The same can be done with the upper lip as an option. Sometimes the mouth covers both lips. If the partner's tongue only touches their surface, such a kiss can hardly be called intimate.

The most intimate is the so-called French kiss, when the partners kiss with half-open mouths, moving their tongues in them. These kisses vary in duration and intensity. They can be short, long, sharp, gentle, soft, biting, and so on. Everything depends on the desire of the partners. If you don’t like the kiss, it won’t be able to make both of your feelings more intense, but, on the contrary, it can cause rejection and a decrease in intensity.

Embrace

To excite a partner, kisses alone are not enough. Hugs in sex are as important an element as kisses. They can be different in duration and intensity. Hugs can be long, strong, like a jerk, short, gentle. Many women prefer hugs and kisses of different intensity. For example, a hug is short and strong, and a kiss is long and gentle. What and who likes during sexual intercourse can only be determined in practice, in an experiment.

Unique biological individuality and upbringing can conflict, and then a woman and a man need to release their true essence. Then there will be no sexual coldness and ignorance of what to do with a partner (partner), if they show complete indifference to your hot actions.

The most common mistake men (and sometimes women) make is expecting their actions to be met with an immediate response, the hottest reaction. In reality, this is often far from the case. If sexual arousal builds gradually, the partner needs to have patience and tact, so as not to expect an immediate response, but to continue experimenting with the partner until she truly feels aroused.

Erogenous zones of women

In the classic sexual game, after kissing and hugging, there is an impact on the erogenous zones. As a rule, from top to bottom: first the head and neck, then the shoulders and armpits, then one of the strongest erogenous zones - the mammary glands. And, finally, the genitals, thighs, feet.

A common mistake men make is that they believe that the sensitivity of a woman's breasts depends on their size. This is far from true, since the most sensitive part of the breast is the nipple and the area around it, the so-called areola. Breast arousal occurs quickly when stroking, pinching, pressing, vibrating touches, etc.

The most sensitive erogenous zones of a woman are the labia minora, the area around them, the clitoris and the entrance to the vagina. Correct (not rough) touching of the clitoris can cause not only strong arousal in women, but also orgasm. The clitoris is one of the most powerful levers of control over the sexual behavior of a partner. If a man knows this, he will easily bring his partner to orgasm.

Some men mistakenly think that a woman's most erogenous zone is the inner surface of the vagina, as well as the cervix and vaults located inside. But this is not true - the clitoris is beyond competition.

How to find the clitoris?

The famous G-spot, which is said to be here and there on a woman, is most likely located on the clitoris. More precisely, it is that very spot. But not all men know how to stimulate a woman's clitoris correctly. When the clitoris is at rest, it is practically invisible. Most of it is located under the woman's external genitalia. A tiny part of the clitoris in the form of a tubercle can protrude at the top of the labia. When a woman is aroused, the clitoris is more visible. It becomes erect in the same way as a man's genitals, filling with blood. And then it increases.

A man can only determine the clitoris by touch, if he presses lightly on this tubercle. A woman can help him with this – she knows the location of her genitals better. Despite the fact that the clitoris is very sensitive, pressing on it alone is not enough. To stimulate your partner, you need to apply light massage – long or short in time.

Love games and clitoral stimulation in the process prepare the partner for sexual intercourse. While this love game is going on. It is important not to rush and not to give in to stereotypes. During love foreplay, the man should not shape events, and the woman should not give in to this and pretend that she is ready, if this is not so. The result should be the arousal of both, therefore sexologists call foreplay the arousal phase.

How to tell if your partner is aroused?

It is easy to determine arousal in a man – his penis, which grows and becomes elastic, will tell you everything. A woman can simulate arousal and orgasm, but you can’t fool nature. If a partner understands the signs of a woman’s arousal, he will definitely notice the following:

  • General redness of the skin of the face or partial
  • A woman may experience burning cheeks, dimples, and earlobes
  • Heart rate is off the charts
  • The abdominal muscles tense up
  • A woman may develop goose bumps
  • The nipples become tense and stick out
  • The clitoris tenses, and the labia are no longer pressed as tightly as the valves of a shell – they open slightly.
  • The external genitalia (labia minora) swell from the rush of blood
  • Their sensitivity increases greatly.
  • The vagina expands
  • The uterus straightens out
  • A clear mucus may be released from the vagina - this is a lubricant that indicates a woman's readiness for sexual intercourse

The last sign (lubrication) is a sure sign that a woman is ready for intimacy with a man.

This moment usually ends the arousal phase, which lasts up to 15 minutes on average. Sometimes longer. Long love play is also not good. It can tire both the woman and the man, especially if both have had an orgasm during this time.

If your partner is not ready...

If a man still fails to arouse a woman's passion during the foreplay phase, he can use the so-called multi-stage method of arousal. It consists of the man carefully monitoring the woman's reaction to his caresses, but does not bring himself to orgasm. When the woman calms down, he continues again, and so on in 2-3 rounds, until the woman is ready for intercourse. This is the multi-stage method.

If during the arousal of the partner the man still could not restrain himself and had an orgasm, and she did not, you cannot immediately demand the next sexual act from him. The physiology of men is such that they need time to become aroused again. This pause is up to 20 minutes. So that the woman does not experience a feeling of dissatisfaction and pain in the ovary area during this time, the partner can bring her to orgasm by stimulating the clitoris.

These are the features of love games – the first phase of a full sexual act. After it comes the next phase, intercourse, or in medical terms it sounds like a plateau phase. About it – in our next publication.

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