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Love at a distance: 6 reasons to break up
Last reviewed: 04.07.2025
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The first months of a romantic relationship are cloudless, filled with passion and optimism. Lovers feel like they have a whole life ahead of them – happy and serene.
But what if people for some reason cannot be together physically and the relationship has to be maintained at a distance? Some couples are able to overcome all difficulties, and even kilometers are not a hindrance for them, however, sadly, most of such unions are doomed in advance. Ilive presents 10 most common reasons that become real pitfalls for long-distance relationships, shattering all hopes and dreams into reality.
Lack of communication
Of course, many will say that mobile phones and communication via Skype are a great solution, because before people had to wait weeks and months for a letter from their loved one. However, technical progress will still not replace face-to-face communication with a person, especially if the couple has been together for a long time and is now forced to communicate only in this way.
A ghostly future together
A ghostly future together is another reason why long-distance love fails. If people can't decide to move, then it's hard to make plans for the future. Such relationships, when neither one wants to give in, usually don't last long.
Treason or the rules of one city
Long-distance lovers remain faithful... or at least try to do so. In reality, it is not that easy, because sometimes loneliness overcomes, and interesting acquaintances sometimes end up not just as friendship...
Trust
If you are currently in a long-distance relationship with your loved one, then, most likely, after reading the previous point, you will think about your lover's fidelity. However, unfounded trust in your partner can put your relationship at risk and, ultimately, destroy it completely. In fact, you are unlikely to be able to find out whether a person is cheating on you or is faithful. The same can be said about ordinary relationships. When people are close to each other, they may not even suspect that their other half is leading a stormy life on the side. Therefore, mistrust and constant brainwashing are unlikely to help you build a strong relationship.
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How much does love cost?
People who live far apart try to meet as often as possible, which naturally requires money. Travel by train, bus, car or plane, as well as paying phone bills - all this can serve as additional factors that eventually turn a romantic relationship into a constant calculation of the cost of love. Many couples often break up for financial reasons.
Life goes on
When there is no other way out and it is impossible to change the circumstances, then a long-distance relationship is the only way out. It cannot be said that absolutely all couples are doomed to failure, however, many are unable to withstand a long separation and become emotionally distant. But even if the thin thread that connects people is threateningly stretched and is about to break, serious changes cannot be avoided if the relationship is dear and it is not just falling in love.