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Last reviewed: 06.07.2025
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There are probably few things that can make a person feel more vulnerable than the lack of clothes, when there is nowhere to hide and nothing to cover up with. Emotional vulnerability can harm relationships and even lead to a breakup with a loved one. A person who is unsure of himself and embarrassed by his body, crossing the threshold of the bedroom with horror, can fall into hysterics even from innocent comments of a partner. Ilive has prepared 7 tips that will help you cope with self-doubt, maintain relationships and overcome your internal problems.
Walk around naked
In the most intimate moments, most people focus on their loved one and their feelings. But there are those who can’t forget about their nakedness. To feel comfortable with your partner, you first need to find peace within yourself, so walk around the house naked. Take a good look at yourself in the mirror and understand once and for all that your body is absolutely symmetrical and proportional, so there is nothing to be embarrassed about and it’s time to get rid of the habit of turning off the light in the bedroom during sex.
Study your body
Masturbation is a normal way of learning about your own feelings and body. Many people have been doing it since their teenage years. With the help of self-gratification, a person can understand what and how he needs to do in order to feel the whole range of sensations.
Visit to the doctor
If you feel pain during sex, it is better not to postpone visiting a specialist, because this may indicate a serious problem. Do not hesitate to ask the doctor about what is bothering you, he will probably give good advice, because he has encountered similar problems more than once.
Do what you like
If you like to talk during sex, then you don’t need to hold back, but if you want your partner to tell you in great detail what he’s going to do with your body, then ask him about it. The same applies to your sexual desires – you should voice them, otherwise you’ll never get rid of constraint and self-doubt.
Practice
If you are embarrassed that you are not doing well in bed, there is nothing to worry about. The main thing is time and practice, just like with the first kiss - the more experience, the better the skill.
Communication
Don't cultivate the habit of keeping silent about problems. If you don't talk about something that you don't like and that causes discomfort, then this will only lead to the problems and discontent accumulating and over time simply destroying the relationship.
[ Pleasure
Sex is not only a way to continue the family line, but also a way to get satisfaction and pleasure. If intimate relationships do not bring you pleasure, then be sure to find out why this is happening. If your partner increases your insecurity, adding fuel to the fire, then this is not the person who will truly support and understand, so think about whether he is worth your attention and time? Unfortunately, life is not that long and you should not waste it listening to jokes about cellulite or other stupid comments.