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What to do if your partner refuses to put on a condom
Last reviewed: 01.07.2025
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Men come up with all sorts of things to avoid wearing a condom, but it is with its help that you can protect yourself from sexually transmitted infections, including HIV, and also avoid unwanted pregnancy. Safe sex, a healthy lifestyle - these are not just fictions, so here are some proven strategies that can make a man use a condom.
Plan ahead
At the moment of intimacy, passion will consume you both and all thoughts of safety will simply evaporate, so discuss with your partner in advance your unwillingness to risk your own health. If necessary, enlighten him in general terms about the possible consequences of unprotected sex and the need for contraception.
Experiment
Nowadays, you can find condoms of any size and color, flavored and for allergy sufferers, ribbed and themed, so offer your partner to try everything that his heart desires. If he has had experience using condoms that left unpleasant sensations, then experiment, and you will find what will suit him.
Act on your own
If you have tried all methods of persuasion, and the result remains the same and your partner categorically does not want to put on a condom, take matters into your own hands - use female condoms. This type of contraception is a polyurethane tube that is inserted into the vagina. However, remember that the simultaneous use of male and female condoms is prohibited, because they may become damaged or slip off.
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Give the right attitude
Often a man perceives a request to wear a condom as a lack of trust on the part of his beloved, and this can lead to a quarrel. Convince him that such a request is not an indicator of a lack of love and trust, but on the contrary, care and a sincere desire to protect both of you.
Prepare well
Before talking to your partner, try to run through your future conversation and his possible answers in your head. If you don’t know how to respond to his refusals, then work through the information that will help you parry all his “I don’t want to” and “I won’t”.
And remember, asking to use a condom is not just a whim, but a demonstration of respect for yourself and your partner.
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