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Men cheat out of great love for their wives.
Last reviewed: 01.07.2025
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It turns out that adultery can be proof of a husband's love for his wife. This is exactly what the author of a book that opens up new light on the psychology of family relationships believes.
The author of the book "The Monogamy Trap: Men, Love, and the Reality of Cheating" Eric Anderson claims that the stronger sex cheats on their spouses not because they stop loving them, but just the opposite - because of love. Professor of sociology at the University of Winchester, Dr. Anderson conducted conversations with 120 men, on the basis of which this book was born.
He found out that the main motive for adultery is simple boredom in bed, and not the disappearance of strong feelings. Consequently, monogamy can be considered an unrealistic expectation. Men cheat out of love for their wives and the desire to continue their relationship with them. If a husband did not love his wife, he would not cheat on her, but would simply go to another woman who provides him with sex without obligations.
"Numerous facts prove to us that it is men who have the most romantic feelings for their wives who decide to commit adultery," says Dr. Anderson. "They are simply not satisfied with their sex life, they are tired of sex with the same partner. Of course, at first glance it seems paradoxical, but husbands really do cheat on their wives out of love. Men are simply very afraid of losing a woman by demonstrating sexual interest in another."
However, many women disagree with Dr. Anderson's point of view. They point out to him the fine line between "sexual attraction" and "being in love." After all, many divorces began with the man finding a more "interesting" woman from a sexual point of view, who subsequently became his new wife.