Erogenous zones: the preparatory period of sexual intercourse

Erogenic zones are called patches of skin or mucous membranes, the irritation of which causes sexual arousal. To the erogenous zones, in addition to these areas, also organs of sight, hearing, smell, touch and taste, which, taking appropriate information, contribute to the emergence, stabilization and intensification of sexual arousal.

3. Freud and his students considered the erogenous zones of an adult human being as the end result of prolonged sexual development, beginning with birth. Thus, according to Freud's ideas, the newborn has the entire surface of the body as one continuous erogenous zone (the entire skin is "eroticized"). The child allegedly receives "sexual pleasure" from touching any part of his body. In the future, "infantile sexuality" passes a series of stages, during which various erogenous zones (oral, anal) come to the fore and the direction of sexual desire (autoerotic, homosexual, heterosexual) changes. For mature sexuality is characterized by heterosexual orientation of sexual desire and the leading role of genital erogenous zones. Stopping the development or regression of sexuality leads, according to Freud, to the infantile ratio of erogenous zones (oral, anal). According to the supporters of psychosomatic medicine, skin diseases (eczema, neurodermatitis, psoriasis) and mucosal lesions (stomatitis, bronchitis, colitis, etc.) can be based on a sexual conflict. In this case, "erotization" of certain areas of the skin and mucous membranes (itching, trophic change, etc.) occurs.

V. I. Zdravomyslov has drawn up a scheme for placing women's erogenous zones. These zones differ in intensity of excitation, its psychological content. Simultaneous irritation of several erogenous zones, as AM Svyadoshch notes, can lead to both the summation of their actions, and to the suppression of several others by one zone. The phenomena of ectopy and heterotopy of erogenous zones are observed. Ectopia is the shutdown of the zone, the total absence of any result when exposed to it (EP = 0). Heterotopy is the transfer of the erogenous zone, the emergence of it where it did not exist before. In rare cases, the deactivation of a large number of erogenous zones was described, which led to difficulties in carrying out the preliminary period of caresses, since it was necessary to find the active erogenous zones, which are sometimes very unusual. In addition, there is a peculiar hyperesthesia of erogenous zones (constant or in certain periods of the menstrual cycle), in which irritation of the zone may not be accompanied by a sense of pleasure, voluptuousness, but, on the contrary, felt unpleasant or painful.

• Mouth. Lip kiss       

The history of the kiss can be traced back to antiquity. Theories and hypotheses of the emergence of a lip kiss are many, monographs devoted to this problem have been published. Analyzing the physiology of a labial kiss, researchers distinguished three main factors: touch (touch), taste and smell. Different authors, giving preference to one or the other factor, accordingly build their hypotheses of the emergence of a kiss. So, part of the authors who give the main role to touch, believe that the love kiss originated from primitive caress - kissing your child and sucking on his mother's breast. Supporters of this opinion believe that at first the kiss was an instinctive contact and only later, causing sexual sensations, acquired an erogenous significance.

This opinion is opposed by another, by which the kiss has passed into a sexual act from a touch that expresses friendliness and worship. Such a touch of people of different sex gradually facilitates their rapprochement and gives a great opportunity for sexual intimacy.

Some authors see the leading side in the taste sensations that arise during a kiss. Van de Velde wrote that even the ancient Romans were good at determining the taste of kisses of their beloved. In his opinion, non-painful bites are a normal technique of kissing. In men, the favorite place for such bites is the left shoulder or the area above the clavicle, the women have a neck (left side) and both sides of the body. Much depends on the growth and position of the spouses. According to Van de Velde, the propensity to bite in a love game is more developed in women. These authors find a great connection between the digestive organs and the sexual sphere, between "taste and love."

And, finally, the third group of authors considers the sense of smell to be the leading factor in the kiss. Of course, the sense of smell in antiquity played a much larger role than it is now. With the development of civilization and urbanization, the sense of smell of modern people plays an increasingly less important role, but we will discuss this in more detail in the section "Nose and Smell."

As one would expect, there should be no question marks in the evaluation of this zone, since almost every woman kissed one another and therefore knew how kisses act on her. Indeed, only two maps have questions. One of the patients for many years suffered from pyorrhea and ulcerative stomatitis and was afraid to infect her husband with a kiss, another had a sharp unpleasant smell from her mouth and nose, and she always turned away from her husband in conjugal caresses. It could be expected that the mouth in the overwhelming majority of cases will greatly excite women, in fact it turned out that the exciting effect manifests itself in more or less degree in less than 50% of cases. 105 women kisses were pleasant, but did not excite, and 73 patients were completely indifferent to them. 25 women kisses were unpleasant or disgusting. A sharp excitement when kissing the lips experienced only 80 women out of 400 (20%). Quite often, women used their mouth for oral, both heterosexual and homosexual contact.

• Language

Ovid Nazon in his "Amores" ("Songs of Love") hotly promotes a lingual kiss. A linguistic, linguistic kiss is sung by many poets of both ancient antiquity and modernity.

This is a gentle French kiss, in which the tongue only touches the lips of the partner only slightly, and the rude Indian Samyana - the rotation of the tongue in the mouth of the other, this is the German contact of the tongue with the tongue. It is also called deep, hot. In the Indian "Kamasutra" Vatsyayana and "Science of Love" Ovid Nazon are various types of kisses. Ovid Nason gives women a number of hygienic tips on this matter (the sharp edge of a broken tooth can injure another's tongue, and an unpleasant smell from the mouth will poison the sweetness of the kiss). V. Du Sosses devoted a whole monograph to the science of kissing. Van de Velde writes that without a language there is still no true love kiss, for this organ is generally one of the most important tools for variations in the kiss. The kiss, in his opinion, has the most severe irritation when the tip of the tongue gently tickles the lips and the tip of the partner's tongue.

It would seem that a linguistic kiss should thus give the greatest sexual arousal. In the analysis, it turns out that 111 women (27.7%) did not know about the existence of such kisses, 46 women kissed "with the tongue," but remained indifferent to this.

• Nose and Smell

It is widely believed that men and women with big noses are "the most passionate." The nose as an erogenous zone is mentioned by many sexologists, but our analysis showed that the nose is not at all an erogenous zone. Only 6 women (1.5%) kiss the nose was "very pleasant and slightly exciting." The main mass of women remains to this caress absolutely indifferent or even unfamiliar with it. Three women kissed their noses unpleasantly.

At the same time, sexologists need to be aware of the close reflex connection between nasal conchas and the female genital organs. The first reports are that irritations emanating from the genital sphere can lead to the development of a nasal cavity disease, appeared as early as 1885.

One of the founders of the sexological science Havelock Ellis in his monograph "Sexual perversions" writes: "... Persons who have defects in the genital organs necessarily have defects from the olfactory nerves, and vice versa." N. Henscheld in his dissertation (Hamburg, 1967) gives an interesting case of agenesis of the olfactory area in combination with eunuchoidism.

Most of all, this question was developed by W. Fliss. He argues that on the septum and in the lower shells of the nose there are special "genital points" (genitalstellen) that swell and bleed easily at each menstruation. We had to meet several cases of a vasomotor runny nose in the form of a kind of gestosis of pregnant women. The connection of Fliess points in the nose with female genitalia was proved in their works by numerous clinicians

Thus, it can be considered proven and clinically and experimentally the presence of a reflex connection between the nasal mucosa and the sexual sphere of a woman.

• Smell

With regard to sexuality, the situation is better with the sense of smell, which for some women is a pronounced erogenous zone. I. Bloch quotes Genkel's statement: "The smell is the quintessence of love, that is, the olfactory sensations form the root cause of sexual intercourse." IP Pavlov wrote: "And I think that, perhaps, the main causative agent of the sexual reflex is a special odor irritant." In humans, the sexual role of the sense of smell, according to J. Novak, is a kind of atavism, a "remnant of animate", but with a pathological condition it can have a significant impact on a person's sexual life. In people with a perversion of sexual feelings, some smells act like a whip, sharply exciting the sex drive. An example of such a perversion is given below.

Particularly developed sensitivity to specific odors in some insects. Thus, males of some species of butterflies smell the female of their species for a few kilometers and unmistakably fly towards it.

For a person especially exciting in sexual relations is the caprylic chemical group (sweat, vaginal discharge, seminal fluid, secretions of the foreskin and glands located near the genital organs). Smells of females attracting males are called epigones and include musk, tsibert.

Still Hippocrates noted that every man and every woman has his own individual smell. He believed that with age, the smell of a person can change. The smell of men is stronger than in women. Vestibular glands of women publish a specific "female" smell. This odor during menstruation can be intensified. On some men, he acts extremely exciting and can explain their desire for cunnilingus.

O. Stall devoted a large chapter in his monograph to the specific smells of men and women. He believes that the smell of a caprylic group, usually perceived as unpleasant, on some men is exciting.

Jager believed that men often excite the aroma of their beloved woman (the smell of hair, the smell of the armpits and the head, especially the nape). O. F. Scheuer refers here the smell of the skin of the hands, feet, anus and even stool. Many women have favorite spirits that excite them. I. Blok writes that the most exciting smells include the smell of reseda, heliotrope, jasmine, patchouli, violet, rose and musk. Some women are sharply excited by the flower of a home-made chestnut, whose smell is similar to the smell of a male seed. Among women, there is a belief that the smell of cloves is among the most exciting smells in men. We (VI Zdravomyslov) had to meet women who moisten the perfume "Carnation" pubic hair.

The stimulating effect of certain spirits on the sexual feeling is emphasized by the Moritz of the Dukes. He writes that Richelieu in his old age for the excitement of sexual activity lived among the smells of the strongest spirits. N.I. Islopdsky in his monograph writes that in the East, it is more common not lip and, especially not linguistic, but olfactory kiss, when the nose of one subject is in contact with either the nose, or with the cheek or hand of the other. He writes that the Chinese, also practicing the olfactory kiss, consider the European lip-kiss an expression of cannibalism. M. Hlrschfeld in his major work gives pictures of such a nasal kiss.

In 86 cases out of 400, the smell of husbands was pleasant to our patients, and in 9 cases he even aroused a sexual sensation, but along with this he very often (102 cases) was extremely unpleasant or even disgusting.

In many cases, the negative role played by the smell of vodka, tobacco. The widespread use of alcohol is increasingly the cause of unhappy marriages, leading to divorce. The smell of wine fumes in most women not only discourages kissing, but often completely kills love.

• Eyelids and eyesight

The eyelids are in themselves an indistinctly expressed erogenous zone. 167 women (41.7%) reacted positively to kisses of the eyelids, 152 (38%) of them kisses of the eyelids were "just pleasant" and did not cause any sexual feelings, and only 9 women "kisses in the eyes" caused a sharp sexual arousal. According to our patients, no one ever kissed eyelids, and six of these kisses were unpleasant (perhaps because they dyed their eyelashes).

In addition to kissing the lips "in the eye" is known and the so-called "kiss of the butterfly," "kiss the moth" - two-sided touch with eyelashes.

The situation is different with vision. No matter how great the importance of hearing in the sexual life of a woman is, nevertheless, N.E. Ishlondsky, believing that the auditory feeling generally manifests its effect after the positive or negative attitude to the object is more or less determined visually, that in the sexual problem of all senses, vision plays a dominant role.

This same opinion is shared by J. Bloch, who said that it was not by chance that two great thinkers, the philosopher Plato and the natural scientist Charles Darwin, agreed that "beauty is the embodiment of love." Beauty always brings positive emotions. A.E. Mandelstam writes that contemplation of nude forms, the corresponding works of painting and sculpture is a powerful tool that excites sexual feeling. He assigns a big role to fashionable dresses, linen, shoes, hairstyle, emphasizing the attractiveness of women.

The analysis of our maps revealed quite unexpected data. It turns out that 144 women were indifferent to the kind of naked husbands and only in 64 this kind caused excitement, and only 16 - strong. Along with this, 66 women were unpleasant to look at a naked husband, and two even disgusted. 77 women out of 400 (almost 20%) have never seen male genital organs.

• Ear and hearing

Ear canal since ancient times was considered one of the strongest erogenous zones. Kissing and sucking ear lobes or the back surface of the auricle in some cases did indeed cause a strong sexual arousal in the women we observed. Especially widely use this zone in the countries of the East. In India, since ancient times perversion of "davanbandzh" - coitus in the auricle.

At us 183 women (45,7%) never kissed an ear, 78 (19,5%) women were absolutely indifferent to such kisses. In 121 cases (30%) the zone was positive, and only 11 (3.7%) caused a sharp excitement, in 18 cases (4.5%), kisses caused negative emotions, of which in 6 cases, kisses in the ear were even disgusting .

Hearing. A woman can be excited by those tender words that she hears during preliminaries and coitus. R. Neubert believes that a woman "loves hearing". A woman can be told ten times a day that she is the sweetest, most charming, most beautiful.

It is known that some women can be excited by this or that music, therefore speaking about erogenous zones and erogenous reactions, we can not help but dwell on music and singing. Since ancient times, the powerful influence of singing and music on emotions is known. Music can excite, but music can also soothe. Therefore, in ancient times, Plato, Aristotle, Asclepius (Aesculapius) and Celius Aurelianus used music to treat patients. In the Middle Ages, the musical influence on the patients was recommended by Avicenna.

In Western Europe, "music therapy" began to become fashionable in the XVII-XVIII centuries. Since the XIX century, the scientific study of the influence of music on various functions of the human body (blood circulation, breathing, gas exchange, etc.) began.

In Russia in 1913, VM Bekhterev organized the "Society for clarifying the therapeutic importance of music." Unfortunately, the world war cut short the activities of this society. In our time, one of the outstanding disciples and followers of VM Bekhterev - VN Myasishchev at the same institute again revived the study of music therapy.

It is necessary to welcome the fact that in recent years an increasing number of our authors have included music in the complex of psychotherapeutic treatment of neuroses and neurosis-like conditions. In England, Frank Knight with good effect uses the music of D. D. Shostakovich for the treatment of severe forms of psychoneurosis that are not amenable to other types of therapy. In the United States, the National Association of Music Therapeutists was formed, which compiled therapeutic catalogs of music - the musical pharmacopoeia ("musicopee"). VL Levy gives some excerpts from the "musicologist" recommended to modern enthusiasts of this problem. Unfortunately, there are no works on "Music and Sex" on this list.

This gap is filled by a large and multifaceted study by A. Hens of the influence of music on sex. The author believed that of all the musical works, the most exciting are the operas of R. Wagner ("Tristan and Isolde", "The Ring of the Nibelung", "Tannhauser") and the operetta of J. Offenbach. Wagner's music and its importance in sexology are devoted to the monograph of P. Becker. R. Meireder in his book calls Richard Wagner an erotic genius.

Today, most authors refer to this category and the newest dance music. The exciting sexual effect of the latter is further enhanced by the corresponding body movements, of which we will speak somewhat further in the section "Sensory Analyzers."

We can not fully agree with the opinion of GP Shipulin that when composing a "musical pharmacopeia," one must take into account works of instrumental rather than vocal music that has a different point of application in the psyche (the word is addressed to the second signal system ). LS Brusilovsky rightly points out the role of active (solo singing and chorus) and passive (listening to singing) vocal vocal therapy in the treatment of various diseases.

In the second edition of the "Guide to Psychotherapy," LS Brusilovsky gives an overview of the world literature on music therapy from antiquity to the present day. By the nature of the impact on the nervous system, he divides all the works into stimulating and sedative. In this review, unfortunately, almost no mention of the influence of music on sex.

Recently, the influence of music on various manifestations of neuroses, as well as the role of music in the treatment of sexual disorders, is studied by SA Gurevich.

Without denying the semantic meaning of singing, we can assert that very often a "song without words", ie, only the sound (timbre and intonation) of the voice can cause a rather pronounced emotional reaction, including sexual. On women in this respect, the very high notes of lyrical tenors are most strongly affected. Known are whole epidemics of such tenoristoks - "pechkovchanka", "lemeshistok", etc.

A. Moll once stressed that music and singing affect excitably the nervous and muscular systems. Especially, in his opinion, women are sensitive to music in the erotic sense.

It is clear that the effect of music therapy depends not only on the work and its performer, but also on the listener himself and can only be obtained from people more or less understanding music.

The above judgments about the emotional significance of the auditory analyzer are confirmed by the analysis of erogenous maps. The analysis of our data regarding hearing confirmed Rudolf Neubert's words that the woman "loves hearing". Thus, in 154 women (38.5%) the hearing was indeed a pronounced erogenous zone, and in 38 patients "affectionate words" themselves could cause strong sexual arousal.

Along with this, the same analysis showed an unsightly picture of the marital behavior of a large number of husbands of our patients. All sexologists agree that the husband should not turn away from his wife after sexual intercourse and fall asleep without the subsequent caress, without the coitus epilogue, without nachspiel. According to our data, the husbands of 90 of our patients (22.5%) commit sexual intercourse extremely primitively. Silently at night she turns to her wife who has not had time to wake up, silently does her job and, without saying a word, "turns and falls asleep." In 47 cases, to the "conversations of husbands" (11.75%), wives were completely indifferent, and in 12 cases (3%) husbands said such abominations that caused displeasure and sometimes disgust for women. It is not surprising that by such behavior they discourage their wives from pursuing "conjugal duties" and develop a persistent sexual coldness in them.

• Neck

The neck is a rather pronounced erogenous zone. In 218 women this zone was positive, in 27 cases it caused a sharp sexual arousal. Along with this, 95 women (23.7%) kissed the neck completely unfamiliar, in 12 cases they were even unpleasant. Different parts of the neck of a woman are not equal in degree of erogenity. One is more pleasant kisses of the neck in front, another - behind, on the border of the scalp. Therefore, recently we have distinguished the "neck in front", "neck behind" and "side surfaces of the neck." Of the 200 women interviewed (Table 4), only 122 (61%) had the same reaction in all parts of the neck, and in 78 cases (38%), the reaction was different.

"Cat's Place" (a place on the back between the shoulder blades) is a pronounced erogenous zone among those women who know about its existence, but the fact is that 319 women out of 400 no one in this place kissed. In 40 of our patients this zone was positive, and in 7 caused a sharp arousal. Only two of the women surveyed kissed her husband between his shoulder blades and were unpleasant.

• Mammary gland

Just like the mouth, the mammary glands are irritated more often than other areas, so there are almost no vague answers (only 7 women noted that they do not know how they react to this irritation). In 288 cases (72%), the mammary glands were positive zones. In 46 cases, weasels facing the mammary glands (even without irritation of the nipples) caused a sharp sexual arousal.

It should be noted that the mammary glands are powerful erogenous zones not only for women. Even manual contact with them excites men. There is even a perversion - coitus intra mammorum (sexual intercourse between breasts). In Kamasutra and Anamgaranda, this kind of coitus - narvasadata - is even recommended for sexual intercourse after a break (at least in a few days) in cases where lovers want to avoid pregnancy, believing that while ejaculating poured out a mature seed, and with the following acts will go already immature, incapable of fertilization.

With this method, not only can a man bring himself to orgasm, but a woman gets a great excitement from the touch of penis and scrotum. In addition, the man, pressing the mammary glands to each other, produces additional irritation with his hands, as though massaging them. S. Embe Boas believes that this method is most interesting for men who love massive, powerful busts.

Sometimes the mammary glands can reach a colossal value. In some cases, the increase is one-sided, but more often - bilateral. Let us cite a few such exquisite cases. Bartholines reported one woman whose mammary glands were hanging down to her knees. Bonet described mammary glands weighing 64 pounds, Durston a 24-year-old woman who could not get out of bed without help: her left breast weighed 64 pounds, and the right one was slightly smaller. Mapledelsoch watched a two-year-old girl with a bust, like a lactating woman.

On men, not only manual or sexual contact with the mammary glands of women is exciting, but even their contemplation. Women know this well and use it extensively, wearing dresses with a deep neckline.

During the sexual intercourse, many women are marked by engorgement of the mammary glands (tumescence phase), sometimes quite significant, the clarity of the venous pattern is enhanced. The phase detemtsentsii captures and mammary glands (engorgement of them quickly decreases, the venous pattern again becomes less noticeable). In 30 cases, the mammary glands were a negative zone, and in 6 cases this was expressed quite strongly.

Nipples and areoles around them in women are one of the most powerful erogenous zones. Their sexual characteristics differ significantly from the characteristics of the mammary glands. The first thing that catches your eye is almost 10 times the number of question marks: here they are already 63 instead of 7. To irritation of the nipples only 37 women are left indifferent to 85. Three times more often the sexual effect is sharply expressed. In 134 women, this effect was expressed sharply and in a number of cases even led to a teasing orgasm. This is back in 1909, G. Merzbach wrote.

Irritation of the nipples is achieved in various ways: hands (kneading, sipping), mouth (sucking, licking) and, finally, glandis penis. Owners of a teasing orgasm argue that with the latter method it is achieved much easier than with the others. Female nipples are extremely sensitive to any sexual stimulation and immediately come to a state of erection, and the surrounding areoles are in a state of tumescence.

Van de Velde believed that the erection of the nipples, similar to the erection of the male sexual organ and female clitoris, further strengthens the erotic effect. The maximum excitation is obtained with simultaneous stimulation of the clitoris and nipples.

In view of the above differences in the sexual characteristics of the mammary glands and their nipples as erogenous zones, it will be of interest to analyze their individual relationship. As can be seen from Table. 6, in 64 cases the ratio of erogenous nipples and mammary glands was not revealed. Of the remaining 336 cards, 135 (40.2%) showed the same erogenous character, in 152 cases (45.2%), the nipples were more erogenous and 49 (14.6%) less erogenous due to 47 negative cases.

During the sexual intercourse, usually the erection of the nipples and tumescence of areoles are further intensified, and in the 4th phase of the act (detumescence) these phenomena pass fairly quickly.

In contrast to female masculine nipples are much less pronounced erogenous zone, their irritation during lovemaking has little effect on general sexual arousal. According to W. Masters and V. Johnson, the erection of the male nipples during intercourse, though to a lesser extent, is noted. A small nipple nipple in men they observed in 60% of cases, a pronounced erection - only 7%. If the detemination of female nipples after coition usually occurs very quickly, then, according to the authors indicated, in men (if there is an erection of the nipples), it passes very slowly (sometimes even for several hours).

• Fingers and Touch

Analysis of our data revealed that 148 women have fingers as a positive erogenous zone, but they do not cause real sexual arousal (only about 5%), in other cases, women are simply pleased when they are kissed by their fingers. Along with this analysis showed that 149 women no one ever kissed their fingers.

Only two women were unhappy when husbands tried to kiss their fingers. In addition, three of our patients were stimulated by kisses on the palmar surface of the hand, and two by the back surface of the hand.

The toes as an erogenous zone we included in the analysis much later, and therefore the number of observations is less (130).

N. Libermann argued that the tips of the toes are among the most important erogenous zones of women. Our analysis showed the following. First, it is clear that the fingers of the female legs of men are "not in high esteem": only 24 women out of 130 men were kissed by toes (18.5%), hence "?" put 81.5% of women, while at kisses of fingers of hands "?" was noted in 37% of the examined. Of these 24 women, 13 were indifferent to these kisses, one they were unpleasant and only 10 women (41.5%) had this zone positive. Three of them kissing their feet were only pleasant and only five provoked a sharp excitement. It is possible that a part of these 10 women was played by a simple contented self-esteem - "they are so loved that they kiss their feet."

From the literary data of the last time, only AM M. Svadoszcz had to observe one patient whose kisses on her feet caused a sharp excitement.

• Touch

To consider touch as an erogenous zone can be in two aspects: in the general and in the genital.

A.E. Mandelstam writes that embraces, touches of hands and feet, especially in dance, excite sexual feelings. In Indian sexology, a large section is devoted to the technique of various embraces. Iv. Bloch wrote: "... Touching the skin of a loved one is already half the sexual intercourse, these touches give voluptuous sensations transmitted to the genitals."

Especially erogenous are modern dances, subjected to thorough criticism of M. Margulis in his book The Disease of the Century. He emphasizes that girls suffer most from contemporary dances, who need to know about sexuality as much as necessary in order to be able to keep their purity.

The sense of touch of women is thinner and stronger, more closely related to sexuality. Many women in conversation with men have a habit of touching their chest, hand, and if they sit, then to the leg. Touched with pencils, fingers, but only to the man who likes them.

O. F. Scheuer believed that the human skin can be regarded as one large organ that can evoke voluptuous sensations. There is also a sensuality of muscles. Friction, massage with hands and feet were widely used in ancient India, among Greeks and Romans. With the purpose of calling sexual excitement and voluptuous sensations in the East, massage in underwater baths, performed mostly by beautiful young men or girls, is very common.

Most sexologists recommend that women in the sexual act themselves put into the vagina sexual member of her husband. This is especially important with a functional pain syndrome caused by a neurosis. In the present analysis, we will consider the question of how the touch of the husband's sexual organs affects his wife. For 126 women, it was pleasant, of which 28 provoked a sharp excitement. 120 women, mostly frigid, did it indifferently (without positive and without negative emotions). 96 (22%) of women have never touched the sexual organs of the husband. For 58 women this touch was unpleasant, and for 12 of them even disgusting.

• Small of the back

The loin is an indistinctly expressed erogenous zone. Only in 24 women the loin was a pronounced erogenous zone. In five women, it was negative. EP only +0.54. The sacrum has an EP even less - + 0.48. Only in 16 women the region of the sacrum caused sexual arousal, and the amount of "?" reaches 207 of 400.

• Buttocks

Among the erogenous zones, the buttocks occupy a special place. Beautiful female buttocks were in ancient Greece and Rome at a premium. Even Horace wrote: "For a woman a great vice, if her back is badly developed - it's like a flat nose or twisted legs." In Greece, a temple was built Venus Callipyge (kallos - beautiful, pyge - seat). Beautiful female buttocks act excitantly on the libido of men.

Almost all erogenous zones of a woman cause positive emotions, mainly with caresses and kisses, buttocks constitute an exception. Here quite often pleasant sensations and even excitement cause not caress, but the use of force (sharp tightening of the buttocks with the male hand) and even causing pain. This feature (flagellation) is noted both in domestic and in foreign medical literature.

Our analysis of erogenous maps showed that in 177 cases (44%) of 400 this zone turned out to be positive, and in 15 women it caused a sharp sexual arousal. The number here is 3 times less than when clarifying the erogenous index of the waist and sacrum. Along with this, in 34 cases the zone was negative, due mainly to the range of acceptability. EP +0.75.

• Navel 

As an erogenous zone, the navel occupies the middle position. In 56 women (24%) he was a positive zone, in 7 cases gave a sharp excitement, 52 women remained completely indifferent to the kiss navel. In 15 women, the navel kisses were unpleasant, of which two were nasty. Here a very large number of question marks-237 (57.2%).

The lower abdomen is a rather pronounced erogenous zone. In 169 women, this zone was positive, although it had only a sharp expression in 15 women. 57 women were indifferent to petting the bottom of the abdomen. The percentage of question marks, although significantly less than in the study of the navel as an erogenous zone, but still a very large question put 167 women (41.7%). This zone was negative only in 7 women (1.7%).

• Clitoris 

The erogenous role of the clitoris is widely known. In Russian it is called a "lover". In 321 women (80.2%) he was a positive zone, and in 176 cases (44%) any touch to him caused a sharp sexual arousal. Along with this, it should be noted that 32 women remained completely indifferent to any irritation of the clitoris.

He is irritated in various ways: hands and mouth with preliminary caresses and petting, male sexual member in sexual intercourse. The irritation of the clitoris by the mouth (cunnilingus), some husbands use as an additional measure, if the wife during the sexual act did not have time to get an orgasm.   

In 20 cases, touching the clitoris caused an unpleasant sensation. This is mostly women suffering from vaginismus. Many do not give husbands not only to caress their sexual organs, but even to touch them. In the section of vaginismus we give an example of A. Ts., Who was so brought up that she never touched her genitals, even when she was washing. In 27 cases, any contact with the clitoris was unpleasant, and in 4 of them even disgusting.

Mantegazza rightly argued that the clitoris like a penis with an erection increases in size. A. Moll categorically denied this and believed that the clitoris, unlike the male genital organ, does not change its magnitude when excited. We consider this a misunderstanding. Erection of the clitoris is expressed, of course, much less than the erection of the penis. In some cases, with a small size of the clitoris, this increase is little noticeable. The size of the clitoris is even more variable than the size of the penis. The larger the clitoris, the more noticeable is its tumescence and an increase in volume during erection.

The size of the clitoris in the sexual characteristics of women does not play a significant role. According to W. Masters and V. Johnson, during the erection the trunk of the clitoris constantly reacts with the increase in its diameter, while the lengthening of the clitoral was observed in less than 10% of cases.

Absolute absence tumescence is only for some frigid women. N. Rohleder described "clitorism" - the prolonged and painful tension of the clitoris (similar to priapism in men), which develops in some women mainly on the grounds of excessive masturbation.

Small labia, the entrance to the vagina and its lower part are the most important part of the sexual apparatus of a woman for getting an orgasm. In whatever position coitus occurs, the male sexual organ can not pass this place.

To differentiate their feelings related to the middle part of the vagina, during the sexual act the woman can not, therefore we did not take this part into account as a separate erogenous zone.  

Since the cavernous bodies, in addition to the clitoris, are located at the entrance to the vagina in the region of the labiae pudendae minores, nimphae, it is logical that this place should be a powerful erogenous zone. Our analysis is fully confirmed, but the power of this zone is somewhat inferior to the clitoris (see vaginal orgasm).

So, out of 400 women in 309, the irritation of this zone caused positive emotions, and in 97 of them - a strong excitation to orgasm (vaginal orgasm). In 41 women, the zone was indifferent and only 26 patients were irritated by the irritation of the introitus.

The cervix in the analysis we will disassemble together with the characteristic of the posterior fornix - their characteristics are almost identical. Many women can not differentiate, get irritation of the cervix or the posterior fornix.

The cervix is one of the most powerful erogenous zones. Annoyance during the sexual intercourse of the cervix in 151 women (37.7%) caused positive emotions, and 101 (25.2%) - a sharp excitement, often resulting in a cervical (uterus) orgasm.

Wernich devoted a special article to the state of the cervix during coitus. He believes that the erection of the lower part of the uterus during sexual arousal should be equated to the tension of the penis in a man and is significant, and maybe even the main point for fertilization.

At the same time, 142 question marks (35.5%) are very common in this zone. This is either women with vaginismus, where there was no coitus at all or, at best, it was superficial, or cases when a woman claims that she does not understand whether the husband touches the cervix or not. In some cases, the case is impotence of the husband, in others - in an inappropriate position of the woman during sexual intercourse, when the penis either passes by the cervix or does not reach the latter.

This zone is also characterized by the fact that it is very often negative (90 women - 22.5%) when: touching the cervix is not only unpleasant, but even painful and disgusting. This is mostly women with chronic inflammatory processes of the genitals.

Whether the cervix of the uterus and the clitoris are original competitors in getting an orgasm or working synchronously will show an analysis of their correlation.

• Anus

The area of the perineum and anus has been considered very powerful erogenous since ancient times. This opinion is shared by many modern sexologists. There are women who have rectal and perineal orgasm.

In general, the wide use of this erogenous zone is characteristic of the southern and eastern countries. So, in India very often at sexual intimacy the husband additionally irritates the area of the anus with the finger or even inserts a finger into the rectum. It is known that on the island of Sifnos (one of the Cycladic islands) in antiquity, both men and women masturbated by inserting a finger into the anus (N. Rau, Rosenbaum). G. S. Vasilchenko observed a woman who, regardless of the duration of frictions, orgasm did not come until the man injected her finger into the anus.

We surveyed women in only a small number of cases noted the use of anus for the final phase of sexual intercourse for the purpose of preventing pregnancy (instead of coitus interruptus).

Only in 98 women out of 400 touch to the anus was positive emotions, in 11 of them, the excitement was so strong that sometimes led to a rectal orgasm. 108 women (27%) remained completely indifferent to irritation of the anus, and in 128 cases (32%) a question mark was put.

In addition, this zone very often has a pronounced negative character. For 126 women (31.5%), touching the anus was extremely unpleasant and even disgusting, and sometimes painful. In most cases, these were women suffering from hemorrhoids. Sometimes indifferent attitude was replaced by negative emotions after husband's attempts to perform a rectal coitus.

The inner surface of the thighs is a rather pronounced erogenous zone. In 230 women (57.5%) this zone was positive, but a strong excitement from stroking this zone occurred only in 17 women. 105 women (26.2%) remained indifferent to the caresses of this zone, 59 surveyed reported that they never caressed this zone. Only for six women suffering from vaginismus, touching the inner thighs was unpleasant, as they aroused fear of a new painful attempt to have sexual intercourse.

Constant or temporary deactivation of one or another erogenous zone, as well as a significant decrease in its intensity, is called the ectopia of the erogenous zone. It can be single and multiple. Especially often ectopia occurs in hysterical women, prone to the development of local anesthesia. The transfer of the erogenous zone, its occurrence in an unusual place on the surface of a woman's body is called heterotopy of the erogenous zone. Suggestion in the hypnotic state can affect the intensity of this or that erogenous zone, however for a relatively short time. Apparently, certain influence on the erogenous zones can have autosuggestion and autogenous training. It should be noted the incorrectness of the idea that affection is only a physical (mechanical) irritation of erogenous zones. In reality, each caress is a psychophysiological phenomenon. It has a psychological, personal content, sometimes expressed in symbolic form. In the drawing of affection, its mechanisms reflect sociocultural, historical, ethnographic factors, as well as personal values, attitudes and characteristics of man.

• The importance of erogenous zones for family relations

Thus, all sexologists, both our and foreign, agree that the husband is obliged to know the erogenous zones of his wife. The exception was only R. Kraft Ebing, who, being brought up in the spirit of Victorianism, advised doctors to refrain from recommending her husband to use erogenous zones. It is completely incomprehensible why L. Ya. Milman in his monograph shares this point of view.

In some cases, the indicators of individual erogenous zones were filled twice - for the husband and the friend with whom there is a parallel sexual life. Often these sexual characteristics differed sharply from each other. For analysis, we took in each zone the most positive option.

According to Moraglia, one woman, by her own admission, had on the body of 14 different places, the irritation of which caused her strong sexual arousal. According to our data, such pansexuality is not a rarity. For the last 3 years only, we have observed 5 women with at least 14 pronounced erogenous zones.

In one of our patients suffering from pronounced vaginism, all the erogenous zones in the front (mouth, mammary glands, genitals) had pronounced negative indices, and the zones located behind all, albeit slightly, were positive.

In view of such an individual arrangement of erogenous zones for each woman, one of the most important tasks of both spouses is to find these zones and then use them before each sexual intercourse.

W. Liepmann emphasizes that there is no such place on the human body that could not act erogenously, and in some people even be the main excitement zone. Therefore, in the case of sexual colderness, one should persistently seek the location of such zones. The use of these sites in the preparatory period can unexpectedly turn sexual coldness into a strong arousal and passion.

W. Stockel writes that the treatment of sexual coldness is "a journey undertaken for discoveries in the field of erogenous zones" and advises the husband having a cold wife to continue this quest until "he does not find those places or that way intercourse, which excites his wife's sexual desire and causes orgasm. " Even minor instructions to the husband on the erogenous zones can turn a cold "sexless" wife into a normal and even passionate woman.

Of course, every husband should know the erogenous zones of his wife and use them skillfully during preliminaries, but, as N. Ivanov correctly pointed out, not all the zones of a woman are included in the range of acceptability, and if the husband, without reckoning with his wife, crosses the boundaries of this range, he introduces this inhibitory effect, which can lead to a breakdown and the development of frigidity. It should also be noted that with the passage of time and with the tactful behavior of the husband, the range of acceptability of a woman usually gradually expands.

On the other hand, incorrect education in some women is extremely hampered by the range of acceptability, and then the doctor should, according to the advice of SI Consorum, explain the patient that "if they love each other, then everything is allowed to them in this love" (N. Ivanov, AP Slobodyanik). Currently, when working in family counseling (3. E. Anisimova), we often had to see the opposite ratio of the acceptability range-a wider range in a woman and a narrower and more rigid one in a man, especially if the husband is younger than his wife.

According to AP Slobodyanik and G. Merzbach, a woman. She should inform her husband about everything that she needs to create optimal relationships.

• Emotional-aerogenic preparation

The first phase of coitus is the emotional-erogenous preparation of a woman, in the excitement of her desire for intimacy. This is achieved by preliminary caresses, irritation of specific for this woman erogenous zones.

Unfortunately, many husbands consider preliminary caresses to be excessive sentimentality and often start coitus as soon as they themselves have an erection, completely not interested in the sexual experiences of a woman.

Most girls, dreaming of marriage, see it as a spiritual side. Body sensations, their physiological processes in the background. For many men, there is a specific desire for detumescence. Facing this at the first steps of family life, young, the girl feels insulted and disappointed in her dreams. This frustration is one of the frequent psychogenic causes of sexual coldness.

Mirka M. Klimova Fugnerova in her book For Women writes that the tactlessness of a partner unceremoniously seeking sexual intercourse without preliminary manifestations of affection and tenderness that prepares a woman for erotic stimulation leads to sexual coldness and even disgust.

Unfortunately, men often forget that in marriage, first of all, there must be love, respect, courtesy and attention (sexual etiquette). The husband and in a sexual life should be extremely attentive to the wife. R. Neubert writes: "A husband in bed should not fall asleep before his wife and wake up after her, and even more so after sexual intercourse turn around and snore."

• Lack of emotional and emotional readiness

Most women (according to our data, more than 70%) begin to experience orgasm not immediately after the onset of sexual activity, but after some, sometimes quite a long time: at this time the woman has a "retardation frigidity" that is not pathology.

According to S. Schnabl, this period of time lasts an average of about 3 years (according to our data - 2.62 years). In women who started sexually at a later age, the period

Tardative frigidity is somewhat reduced. According to Schnabl, in recent years, the period of retardation frigidity began to decline in young people.

L. Ya. Yakobzon quotes Elberskirchen's statement that sexual arousal is caused by a woman taking care of her. Since in marriage husbands rarely take care of their wives, this favors the development of sexual coldness. The same opinion is shared by R. Neubert. In his "New Book on Marriage," he writes: "A husband must take care of his wife not only before marriage, but also in family life." In another place he exclaims: "How do the wives suffer from the inability of their husbands to love!"

Todor Bostandzhiev (Bulgaria) and ZA Rozhanovskaya believe that there are no "cold" women at all, and there are women who are "not warmed by the attention and care of a man, his caress and tenderness." This behavior of a husband in a marriage often depends not only on his "selfishness and coarseness," but also on complete ignorance of sexuality and marriage.

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