Top 5 benefits of remarriage
Last reviewed: 16.10.2021
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According to statistics, after an unsuccessful first marriage, only every sixth resident of Europe remarries. However, in the second marriage, these ladies are much happier.
The new union, reinforced by the seal in the passport, is stronger than the first for a number of reasons. There are only five of them ...
1. Marriage "in the mind"
Burned with milk, blowing on the water. This saying is very suitable for people building new relationships. They carefully choose partners, guided by reason, not feelings.
At the same time, not only the character of the future spouse is analyzed, but also his hobbies, habits, attitude to sex. With this approach, there are almost no unpleasant "surprises", which means that the union has every chance of being strong and long.
2. The experience of living together
People who already have experience in family life are much more comfortable with the new "half". Most of them, having started to conduct joint farming, immediately put all the points on the "i", talking about what they would not like to put up with.
Marriage it only goes to the benefit, as the couple discuss each other's household nuances, and do not remain silent (until they reach the boiling point), as was the case in the previous union.
3. Thoughts about old age
If in youth people do not think about how they will meet their old age, then with such thoughts they visit them more and more often. The main question becomes, in this case, not even "how", but "with whom." To spend the days alone do not like anyone, therefore, feeling the approach of the decline of life, people spend more energy on maintaining relations in the family.
Spouses who live in a second marriage (as a rule, they are no longer young), it is much easier to "patch up" holes in existing relationships than to start a new novel, which, by the way, can not even end.
4. Children
If on the first marriage the women enter "for themselves", then after the divorce they build relationships, mainly with those men who are well treated with children born in the past union.
As a rule, a man who undertook to take care of other people's descendants wants to have his own. Subconsciously, he fears that his offspring will also be left without a father, and does everything possible to strengthen the family alliance. A significant role in this play and children from the first marriage. Taking an outsider into a family, they thereby "cement" the relationship between spouses.
5. Long-term plans
In the first marriage, most people live today. They enjoy each other's company, and are ready for paradise in a hut. However, with the passage of time, feelings go away, and material goods gain more weight than before.
The absence of these can even cause a divorce, and that is why, when remarrying, the spouses begin to immediately ask themselves "what will happen next."
Plans for people regaining their relations in the registry office, as a rule, are already built for several five-year plans. Adults, mature men and women want to have a separate living space, a car, to go on vacation, have a baby, etc. That is, they have clear goals ahead of them, the achievement of which is even closer to the couple.
Important!
Many psychologists consider the present times a serious test of marriages for strength. According to statistics, the hardest will be those spouses who have lived with each other for a year. During this period, there are idealistic ideas about family life and the arrangement of life begins, which, when there is a shortage of money, becomes very problematic.
"Dissatisfaction with each other in a young family is growing, but the experience of mutual patience and understanding has not yet developed," experts explain. To survive this period will be able only couples who will learn to forgive each other and restrain their emotions.
If you are still separated, remember that life does not end thereafter. The new relationship will be, but for them it is still necessary to "mature", that is, to undergo a course of psychological rehabilitation. If years go by, and you are all alone, do not consider yourself inferior. Think differently. You are an independent, interesting woman, not burdened with marital duties, who already have children. You have escaped the lot of many wives, spinning all day like a squirrel in a wheel, have time for yourself, for hobbies and hobbies. Show that you are completely satisfied with such a life, and the surrounding men themselves will be drawn to a successful woman.
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