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The 5 major benefits of remarriage
Last reviewed: 01.07.2025
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According to statistics, after an unsuccessful first marriage, only every sixth European woman remarries. However, in their second marriage, these ladies are much happier.
The new union, backed by a stamp in the passport, is stronger than the first for a number of reasons. There are only five of them…
1. Marriage "by the mind"
Once burned, once blown away. This proverb is more appropriate for people building new relationships. They choose partners more carefully, guided by reason rather than feelings.
In this case, not only the character of the future spouse is analyzed, but also his hobbies, habits, attitude to sex. With this approach, there are practically no unpleasant "surprises", which means that the union has every chance of being strong and long.
2. Experience of living together
People who already have experience of family life get along with their new "halves" much easier. Most of them, having started to run a joint household, immediately dot all the "i's", talking about what they would not like to put up with.
This only benefits the marriage, since the spouses discuss everyday nuances with each other, and do not remain silent (until they reach the boiling point), as happened in the previous union.
3. Thoughts about old age
If in their youth people hardly think about how they will meet their old age, then with age such thoughts visit them more and more often. The main question becomes not even "how", but "with whom". Nobody likes to while away the days alone, therefore, feeling the approach of the sunset of life, people spend more energy on maintaining relationships in the family.
It is much easier for spouses living in a second marriage (as a rule, they are no longer young) to “patch up” the holes in their existing relationship than to start a new romance, which, by the way, may not even end in anything.
4. Children
If women enter into their first marriage “for themselves”, then after a divorce they build relationships mainly with those men who treat children born in a previous union well.
As a rule, a man who has taken on the responsibility of caring for someone else's offspring wants to have his own. Subconsciously, he fears that his offspring will also be left without a father, and does everything possible to strengthen the family union. Children from the first marriage also play a significant role. By accepting a stranger into the family, they thereby "cement" the relationship between the spouses.
5. Long-term plans
In a first marriage, most people live for today. They enjoy each other's company and are ready for paradise in a hut. However, over time, feelings fade and material goods gain more weight than before.
The absence of these can even serve as a reason for divorce, and this is why, when entering into a second marriage, spouses immediately begin to ask the question “what will happen next?”
People who are registering their relationship at the registry office again usually have plans for several five-year periods. Adult, mature men and women want to have their own living space, a car, go on vacation, have a child, etc. That is, they have clear goals ahead, the achievement of which brings the spouses even closer together.
Important!
Many psychologists consider the current times to be a serious test of the strength of marriages. According to statistics, the hardest times will be for those spouses who have lived together for a year. During this period, idealistic ideas about family life disappear and the arrangement of everyday life begins, which, given the lack of money, becomes very problematic.
"Dissatisfaction with each other in a young family is growing, and experience of mutual patience and understanding has not yet been formed," experts explain. Only couples who learn to forgive each other and restrain their emotions will be able to survive this period.
If you do break up, remember that life does not end there. There will be new relationships, but you still need to “mature” for them, that is, undergo a course of psychological rehabilitation. If years go by and you are still alone, do not consider yourself inferior. Think differently. You are an independent, interesting woman, not burdened with marital responsibilities, who already has grown-up children. You have avoided the fate of many wives who spin like a squirrel in a wheel all day, you have time for yourself, hobbies and interests. Show that you are completely satisfied with such a life, and the men around you will be drawn to a successful woman.
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