What is the ideal difference between the oldest and youngest child?
Last reviewed: 16.10.2021
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Psychologists conducting an analysis of the mental state of children from families with different numbers of children, derived the formula for the ideal age difference between brothers and sisters.
It turned out that most of the problems in terms of the psyche and relationships are waiting for the only children in the family, their parents are too hung up on education, put on him too many hopes and aspirations, sublimate their desires and failures. This behavior of the parents leads either to excessive egoism of the child or to complete withdrawal into oneself and loss of communication with the parents.
Twins are surprisingly also not the best option, trying to treat children the same way, parents almost never take into account the individual mental and taste needs of each individual child. So the twins begin to copy each other and behave the same way, thus not comprehending themselves as a person.
Oddly enough, the parent's pogodas are often treated like twins, trying to give them all the same. It is aggravated by the fact that the youngest child does not have time to grow up for the requirements to the elder, and the requirements to the elder are underestimated.
With a big difference in age, more than 10 years old, older children face the "nanny" duties, after the birth of a new child, parents begin to perceive the elder as already grown up and force him to participate in the education of the younger on a par with everyone, whereas the first child may still need parental shoulder.
The ideal difference, according to psychologists, is 4 years. After all, by the age of 4, a child can easily survive the birth of a new member of the family, in infancy he has received enough attention and now can switch to the knowledge of the outside world and communication with other children.