Passion of men by pornography makes women unhappy
Last reviewed: 17.10.2021
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Young women, whose partners do not shun pornography, are less happy in a relationship than those whose young people abstain.
Destin Stewart, an intern at the University of Florida (USA), and psychologist Don Shimansky of the University of Tennessee (USA) note that not all couples conflict because of viewing pornography, but overall it reduces the self-esteem of girlfriends and wives. According to them, women, having discovered frank materials on the partner's computer, feel "not good enough, unable to match."
Researchers also recall that participants of previous works responded in a similar way. Here is one of the replicas registered in 1999: "Men look at these photos, and then they tell us:" Look how beautiful she is, why can not you be like that? ""
However, only a few of these studies gave exact figures, so Stuart and Shimanski decided to understand how often women experience such feelings. They asked 308 women between the ages of 18 and 29 to fill out online questionnaires that dealt with the role of pornography in the lives of their partners, as well as the quality of the relationship, sexual satisfaction and self-esteem. All participants were heterosexual, most - white.
It turned out that the more often young people and husbands watch pornography, the less happy their relations with them are. If women are seriously concerned about the hobby of a partner (for example, they think that this has become an unhealthy habit for him or that he gives them an abnormally high attention), they often have low self-esteem and are less satisfied with the relationship with a partner and sex life.
Of course, this does not prove that the cause of low self-esteem is pornography. As Ms. Stewart points out, women who feel insecure are more likely to forgive a partner for his hobby for pornography and prefer to stay with him than to be alone in this terrible world.
The research is limited to young women, and most relationships have a short-term nature. In addition, since most couples did not live together, women might not know how much attention actually men paid to pornography. And, of course, one can not compare the frustration of a wife who discovered her husband "porn" after ten years of marriage, and a girl who found out what sites her 18-year-old friend visited.
Anyway, but Ms. Stewart urges women not to compare themselves with porn stars. Communicate and look for a compromise between your desires.