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What's best not to talk about on a first date
Last reviewed: 01.07.2025
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The first date has every chance of becoming the last if the two people fail to find common ground. What topics should not be discussed on the first date if you don't want it to be the last.
1. Former.
If you constantly remember and praise your former partners, your new acquaintances may get the impression that you still care about them. If you speak about them in a bad way, you will make it clear that you are not a very smart person and, probably, a vindictive person. The ideal is to focus your attention on the person in front of you, and not on your past.
2. Health problems.
Hold off on the details of your digestion and other medical history until better times. Discussing other people's ailments or even their heroic health is only interesting to close people.
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3. Financial position.
Even if you have a fat wallet, you shouldn't discuss how full it is on the first date (unless, of course, you think that it's your money that's being chosen, not you). This is especially true when it comes to money problems and troubles.
4. Religion and politics.
There are topics on which everyone has their own opinion, which means that talking about these things is likely to lead to disagreements or arguments. There is nothing wrong with either, but it is better to avoid such risks for a first date.
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