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How not to scare off the man of your dreams?
Last reviewed: 01.07.2025
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What do men really want? How do they evaluate girls and their actions?
9 things a girl can do to scare off a potential boyfriend.
Glamour Attack
Prada, Fendi, Gucci… Believe me, your gentleman is absolutely not interested in how many brands you are wearing, because that is not what he chose you for. You can be a walking billboard advertising branded items, but what is under the glamorous wrapper is much more important to your partner.
Always hungry
Don't be afraid of looking sloppy if sauce dripped on your chin or something similar happened. It's not the end of the world. Use a napkin and stop drilling your brain with thoughts: "Oh, he probably thought I was a slob. That's it, next time I won't eat anything at all." This is the mistake of many girls who are invited to a restaurant by men. The lady orders a salad and picks at it with a fork all evening so as not to look funny, stupid, etc. Stop being afraid, eat, have fun and be yourself.
Pseudo sports fan
Your gentleman is lucky if you fully share his sports interests, and all football/basketball/volleyball viewings take place together. However, if you are not at all interested in goals, fouls, penalties, throws and hits, then under no circumstances try to please a man by learning a couple of names of players. You will make an indelible impression, but not the one you are counting on.
Smart owl
A well-educated girl always attracts and impresses. Such a lady can support a conversation, debate and simply demonstrate the knowledge that she has gained through hard work at the university. But! A truly educated and well-mannered girl will never allow herself to brag about where she studied (despite the fact that the place is prestigious) and what successes she has achieved.
Laughing
Of course, no one goes on dates with a funeral face, but believe me, sleepy, causeless giggling can throw a man off balance, even the most “thick-skinned”.
Business sausage
Purposeful, ambitious women have a certain appeal that attracts men. However, if a woman mixes work with her personal life, it will not lead to anything good. Do not let work "take over" your relationship. A man is unlikely to like a girl who has a calculator installed in her head.
Artificial beauty
Fake hair and extended nails – this is hardly surprising, especially if you don’t know the limits. There is nothing wrong with focusing on women’s charms and virtues, but remember that everything is good in moderation.
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Soul wide open
You will still have time to share your life story with your beloved. However, if you fill his tanks at the very first meeting, there is a risk that all subsequent dates will be cancelled. In addition, men love mystery in a woman, do not reveal your secrets in the first minutes.
Too accessible
Few men will reject your offer to come for a cup of coffee in the evening, stay until the morning and have breakfast together. But here is the catch. After that, the man may not call, and you will be tormented by thoughts, what did I do, because everything went perfectly? Men must achieve, hunt, or whatever you want to call it. Interest in what comes on a plate quickly disappears. So flirt, be sexy, but hurry to give your knight your heart and love.