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10 first date mistakes
Last reviewed: 01.07.2025
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Almost everyone can remember some funny situation that happened on a date. But in addition to funny situations and fun, sometimes a person can behave somewhat tactlessly on a date and thus ruin a pleasant romantic evening. What mistakes and unspoken rules of behavior exist on a date? Let's figure it out together with Ilive.
Too much information
This means that it is not worthwhile to dedicate a person who is not yet close to you to the details of your childhood, family tree, family traditions, and so on. A person can simply run away from such an abundance of information in order to avoid further stories. And, of course, you can forget about a second date then.
Awkward moments
The first date is a chance to make a positive impression. Therefore, you need to remember some things and rules of conduct. First, do not abuse alcohol, even if you think that it will relieve tension. The tongue can be so loose that in the morning it will be very awkward about yesterday. Also, do not visit the places where you spent time with your ex-lover. Memories can flood in and this will turn not into a date, but into a wake of unhappy love.
Cross out the past
Even if your previous relationship wasn't perfect, after a breakup people tend to remember only the good moments. This threatens that some will start comparing their exes with their new partners. Few people will like this and it can lead to negative consequences. Moreover, the topic "and my ex..." is inappropriate on a first date.
Listen to yourself
Love at first sight is wonderful and very good if it does not pass on the second. If on the first date you feel that you are uncomfortable, difficult and hard, then there is very little chance that all subsequent dates will awaken bright feelings in you. Until you are stuck in a relationship that is doomed to an unhappy end, it is better not to start one at all.
Unexpected dates
When a person invites you on a date and unexpectedly suggests meeting for an hour, it can only mean one thing - he is simply not interested in meeting, and is thus trying to fill up free time or a failed meeting. By agreeing to such a rendezvous, you risk remaining in the background forever.
Love at first sight
Of course, it exists and it is very romantic when people understand from the first minute of meeting that they are destined to live their whole lives only with each other. However, often, unfortunately, such sparks of passion fade away during further acquaintance, despite vows of eternal love and promises to marry. Such attraction can be simply physical, and people can speak different languages, not understanding the desires and aspirations of their partner, which destroys the ideal world of love. Moreover, it is difficult to build a relationship in one day. Only participants of "Dom-2" can do this.
Love games
Love and everything connected with it is a storm of emotions, worries, nerves, but still these are wonderful, exciting feelings. However, sometimes love games can go too far. For example, manipulations, like I won’t call her/him, let him/her suffer, feigned coldness when meeting, in the hope that the prince will fall on his/her knees and beg to marry him, manipulation of the partner and similar, seemingly harmless tricks. All this can have unpleasant consequences, up to and including a break in the relationship, so if you really want to play, then you definitely shouldn’t play too much.
Warning signs
Your gentleman is gorgeous, successful and irresistible, but something is alarming you and won't let you relax? It's better to listen to your feelings. Watch him, maybe your gentleman becomes too wild when he drinks or his mother calls him every two hours or something else suspicious. If this doesn't suit you, then you need to run away. Of course, everyone has their own quirks, but the question is how quirky are they and can you live with them?
Lie
It is definitely not worth starting a relationship with deception. Even a small lie, like being late because you are stuck in a traffic jam, you can’t come because you need to visit your grandmother, and so on, can put an end to the most romantic relationship. Sooner or later, as they say, everything becomes clear, and trust disappears.
Don't overdo it
As for girls, coquetry, of course, has not been cancelled, but it is better not to be coy, grimace and giggle constantly, if you do not want a man to take you for an ordinary doll, who has a lot of free space in her head.
Men, however, are highly recommended not to resolve their business issues on a date. It is simply tactless and such a meeting can hardly be called a date. It is better to arrive early on a date, but in no case be late, especially if the meeting place is set outside, and in winter. It is also better for a man to think in advance where the date will take place, so that there are no questions, “Well, where shall we go? Any suggestions?”
And one more piece of advice applies to both the fair sex and the strong half of humanity: do not interrupt each other, racing to tell something. If you are destined to be together, then you will have enough time to speak out.